Hi, I'm Sc

[SimplyComplex]

I found my way over here from the PTSD board. I am 30ish, live in Texas and a survivor of CSA from my mother and various other people (I guess that is how it happens, huh?). I have been in therapy coming on a year and a half and have a dx of PTSD. I am getting a lot better but recently started really dealing with the sexual abuse and am finding myself very destabilized. Working on keeping it together.

 

[leanne1321]

Hi SC,

I've seen you on the main forum before, welcome to this one.

Leanne

 

[Muzikluvr]

Welcome to the forum, SC! :love:

I'm glad you came over here.... all the best smileys are on THIS site! LOL :lmao:

There's a lot over here, take your time going through it and share when you're ready.

:funnyfaces:See you in chat!
Muz

 

[anon]

hey sc :wave:

 

[anndeb]

Welcome SC :wave: Yep sometimes we have to 'fall apart' a bit before we put the pieces into place and find a better way of dealing with the crap. Best wishes to you in your journey towards healing! :affection:

 

[cherryblossom]

Hi SC
Welcome to the forum :D

 

[Lucycat]

Hi SC and welcome!:peekaboo:

 

[Deaf Global Nomad]

Hi SimplyComplex!

Welcome to this forum! I am glad that you found your way over here. My primary sexual abuser was my father, but similar to you I have experienced various types of abuse from a number of other people. For the past few years I have mostly been focusing simply on keeping myself safe, but even that fails.

I am in therapy and am learning a lot about how to set up boundaries for myself. It's interesting that I don't have problems with others' boundaries. I see them and respect them. Just for myself I don't feel worthy of having boundaries. I clearly still have a lot of work left to do and I am up for the challenge. I see my therapist twice a week and work as hard as I can despite it being extremely scary.

I look forward to learning from you here, too...

 

[Lionheart]

Hi SimplyComplex,:)

It is good to see you here at this forum! I am sorry that you need to be here, but I'm glad that you have joined the rest of us who struggle with sexual abuse issues....Hopefully, you will find the support, comfort and peace that you need!!! wishing you the best,
LH

 

[anndeb]

Setting boundaries is a difficult issue with me too unfortunately. I so admire others who can set firm and assertive boundaries that I am often attracted to them and hang around them in hopes it will 'rub off' on me. They are good role models for me, but I'm afraid i have to do the work for myself, and give up the fantasy that I will magically 'catch' their behavior simply by being around them.

There is a good book I have found about boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud.. simply called 'Boundaries'.. it has helped me, altho practicing what I have read is the key to changing and is terrifically more difficult to do than reading and understanding. I really struggle with it. :banghead: