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[Kathia]

Hi My name is Kathia. I am writing because my boyfriend currently suffers from PTSD. He doesn't sleep barely eats and has withdrawn from almost all physical contact. We currently residing in different states so he really doesn't communicate unless I initiate it. He doesn't seem to be very interested in making a decision about anything especially his career. I have tried everything to get him back in the game of life. Even having him be movtivated about seeing his son. His child mother is a real mess and constantly taking him to court for increases just because. She even told him not to see their son anymore because he doesn't approve of his lifestyle.

The only thing that seesm to keep him from snapping is smoking weed. I have tried to get him to get help I have even said I would support him through this. I love him very much and don't want us to break up but this has been so emotionally exhausting. I honestly don't know what else I can do and I am open to any suggestion. Sex is def not happening and I'm ok with that but we have zero intimacy.

 

[BigBear]

Kathia,

0 intimacy may be a long term problem. Un-managed PTSD leads that way... Even once Psych help starts, it can be some time before the sufferer is ready for any kind of intimacy. You do have to take care of you first, but if you really love him there will also have to be a lot of taking care of him. Just be ready to give up a lot more than you are getting, for a while. It won't be balanced.

We are all glad you are here. Please look around and learn all that you can.

Bear

 

[sisu]

Hi Kathia, Welcome! Does your boyfriend manage his PTSD with meds and/or therapy? It is very important that he does this for both himself and your relationship. If he is not doing this, then nothing you do will help him "get back in the game of life".

Come join us in the Supporters section - there are lots of "sticky's" at the top of each section full of great information. Plus, there are wonderful supporters on here willing to share their stories which in turn help others. Read, learn, ask questions and most importantly - take care of yourself!

Sisu

 

[Lady of Longbourn]

Welcome to the forum. :)

 

[Kathia]

Hi Kathia, Welcome! Does your boyfriend manage his PTSD with meds and/or therapy?

No he's not getting therapy for himself nor meds. I guess smoking weed is his way of coping with it. He internalizes everything. He's indecisive and doesn't get back and has pretty much refused to me.

We haven't seen each other in five weeks. It's been really hard and there are times when I ask myself why. The crazy thing is that he doesn't want to have sex but will look at sex sites, he will make comments on facebook saying that he likes pictures of other women but I get nothing.

He doesn't get that it hurts my feelings. It's always about him. I haven't felt like a woman in about 5 months. I haven't been held or kissed or even had my hand held. He doesn't keep his word on anything. He doesn't return phone calls or text and when I get upset he says i'm being pushy. I ask myself what am I doing with this guy but somehow I still love him through this mess.

 

[Pale Warrior]

Hi Kathia, welcome to the forum.

So sorry to read of your situation, I can read the pain in your words.

My husband has PTSD and I know how tough it can be. I am worried about you and te damage this situation is doing to your self esteme. Please come and join us in the supporters section, you will be most welcome.

 

[Tifanee]

Welcome Kathia! You are in a good place to find your own support, take the time to read the threads from other supporters and sufferers which will give you insight into what you are facing with your boyfriend.

Good luck! We are here when you need to talk.