Hello everyone
I am new here and hoping to maybe get a little insight..
I have been dating my guy for 18 months and very much in love he is a good man...but right now is not wanting to see me..
I believe he has had ptsd most of his life was abused by his mother his whole childhood. .but just last October after going to therapy classes was told he had ptsd..
He went to Florida for a few months this winter..As the long winters are tough on him..i visited him when he was there at his friends place..He was acting a little distant then. .When he came home ..well i haven't seen him..i have educated myself the best i can and so i have not pushed him..i text good morning every day and i get a morning back sometimes more but always let him decide if he wants to text or email more then that..He drove down i flew so he brought my suitcase back which he still has..nothing i really need in it..i haven't ask for it cause as silly as it sounds to me it's my thread to him..i kept thinking i was going to come home and see it sitting there cause he does have the key to my place and knows my hours at work. .but it never happened...In the last 6 months a lot of stressful things has happened to him along with finding out he has ptsd there was a death of a close family friend his mother had a stroke and his house payment went up hundreds of dollars..and some other things. .right now he is working hard every day to stay a float..He has not said it is over..and lately has been texting more sending pictures and what not. .i do remember something that happened last fall..we were in the car and I said for some reason. .i can't think of anything you would do to make me not want to be with you. ..He turned to me and said...you'll see.. and he sounded so sad..I didn't know then..but he must have known that it was only a matter of time that he would isolate again..am I scared he won't come back to me...yes
But I just don't understand if he wanted that why he wouldn't just drop of the suitcase put the key under my Matt and stop communication. ..my friends that just don't get it are saying I am holding on to false hope..maybe I am but I love this man and don't want to lose him..is it wrong to be hopeful...I'm living my life staying busy with friends. .grandkids...and just letting him know I'm here..I don't think any other women he dated stuck around when this happened. But of course they didn't know why..am I doing the right thing not giving him pressure to answer questions..and keeping things light..just being patient...hopeful and a little confused. .
Hoping maybe that someone can give me some insight ...Thank you for taking the time to read.
I am new here and hoping to maybe get a little insight..
I have been dating my guy for 18 months and very much in love he is a good man...but right now is not wanting to see me..
I believe he has had ptsd most of his life was abused by his mother his whole childhood. .but just last October after going to therapy classes was told he had ptsd..
He went to Florida for a few months this winter..As the long winters are tough on him..i visited him when he was there at his friends place..He was acting a little distant then. .When he came home ..well i haven't seen him..i have educated myself the best i can and so i have not pushed him..i text good morning every day and i get a morning back sometimes more but always let him decide if he wants to text or email more then that..He drove down i flew so he brought my suitcase back which he still has..nothing i really need in it..i haven't ask for it cause as silly as it sounds to me it's my thread to him..i kept thinking i was going to come home and see it sitting there cause he does have the key to my place and knows my hours at work. .but it never happened...In the last 6 months a lot of stressful things has happened to him along with finding out he has ptsd there was a death of a close family friend his mother had a stroke and his house payment went up hundreds of dollars..and some other things. .right now he is working hard every day to stay a float..He has not said it is over..and lately has been texting more sending pictures and what not. .i do remember something that happened last fall..we were in the car and I said for some reason. .i can't think of anything you would do to make me not want to be with you. ..He turned to me and said...you'll see.. and he sounded so sad..I didn't know then..but he must have known that it was only a matter of time that he would isolate again..am I scared he won't come back to me...yes
But I just don't understand if he wanted that why he wouldn't just drop of the suitcase put the key under my Matt and stop communication. ..my friends that just don't get it are saying I am holding on to false hope..maybe I am but I love this man and don't want to lose him..is it wrong to be hopeful...I'm living my life staying busy with friends. .grandkids...and just letting him know I'm here..I don't think any other women he dated stuck around when this happened. But of course they didn't know why..am I doing the right thing not giving him pressure to answer questions..and keeping things light..just being patient...hopeful and a little confused. .
Hoping maybe that someone can give me some insight ...Thank you for taking the time to read.
