Horrendous Experience, Any Advice Appreciated

[doglover]

Blondie, I'm so sorry you went through that! I can't even imagine how difficult that would be.

I have a question. You mentioned running into more than one of your lifelong abusers or attackers. Is it possible to start saving money to relocate? Or maybe your government even has a program to help with the cost of relocating due to the emotional stress of bumping into attackers in your local area?

If I had run into so many people who had caused me such harm, my first choice would be to scrimp and save to get the F out of dodge so I could start fresh without looking over my shoulder. I mean, I know that tendency can come with PTSD, but in your case it would make sense to be hyperaware when you're in public. I think that could get in the way of maximum healing... it's possible, not definite, of course... any chance you could move?

 

[smooch]

I went through something similar, but I did not see my husband. My husband tried to get the judge to agree to court ordered joint therapy. Needless to say, his shrink called me one night! Omg he was arguing with me, but I stood up for myself and told the Dr I would not do therapy with my ex, period! Can you get a police escort to and from therapy?

 

[Blondie362]

Hi smooch
I can't get an escort to and from therapy - police resources in the Uk don't stretch to that I'm afraid. :( But mentally the building has caused another trigger to flashback on. I just wouldn't be able to keep my mind focused on a therapy session there.

 

[Srain]

I'm so glad you made those complaint, what a great job! This economy makes so many things much much tougher now. I'm so sorry. I'm sickest most of all that sitting on her butt was someone that was right there who could have and SHOULD HAVE helped you when you needed it!!

I think you made the exact right choice, though it's wrong that YOU should have to change anything, to move somewhere else, ultimately you will be safer.You are taking the right steps :)

It may not be practical, it certainly isn't fair, but if you could leave the area, that might be the safest. I had to leave my home, friends, job, even my car due to an abusive spouse that was on his way to finishing me. Even after I left he broke into places looking for my address, the only thing I had going for me was that he was on parole and if he left the state and was seen he could be picked up on site, so I registered his description with the local authorities after moving to a smaller town. I was angry and terrified like never before in my life or since but I knew it was the only thing I could do.

There was NOTHING fair about it and I had to stay with friends for awhile but at least he didn't win.

Stay safe.

peace and safe being,
Rain

 

[Blondie362]

Thank you for your kind replies, I am due to be seeing a health exec on October 17th regarding my official complaints, aswell as my therapist at a different location. but while all this is getting sorted out I havn't had therapy and have just been left to relive so much and my flashbacks and dissociation is hell at the moment, its my dogs that are keeping me going, at the moment I am in the head frame" I hate people stay away". So this forum is a godsend for me - thank you.
Edited to say I have had two more CCTV camera's added to the house.

 

[Blondie362]

Just an update, my meeting went ahead with the MH sector litigation team team, and let her have it with both barrels. ( english term for she got it bigtime..lol)

Prior to that meeting I had a therapy session at a different location with my T after I spelled out in no uncertain terms I AM NOT returning to the old building, our MH service should be about building trust not fear and walls, I have had to jump over too many walls over the years to stay safe .

I have also found out that the therapist that I initially begged for help yet she ignored me, has also had complaints from members of staff for bullying!! and complaints from patients ( I was told that from a friend who worked within that sector years ago)

I think I have reset my boundaries with them , I may have MH issues, but being stupid isn't on that list, and I refuse to be told go back to the old building to" face your fear"?..... facing my fear would be putting me in a room with a frog - another phobia !! putting me in a building where my ex has been is just plain suicidal.

Believe me if I could afford it I would move.

 

[OKRADLAK]

That is very sad. If my abusers went to my T, I would totally quit therapy. Period. That would be my choice. I am not saying that is the best way, but that would be my way.

 

[PTSD sufferer]

Good on you Blondie for taking control of the situation. You are one tough chicky and I am in complete admiration of your fighting spirit. You go girl!! It does pay to complain and blow the whistle on malpractice :)