How Do I Apologize And Tell Them I'm Ok?

[mamachick]

@springer-think we were posting at same time and had similar thought. LOL

Please let us know how it goes!

 

[Springer80]

I think you made a good point too brat17. Sounds of distress always keep me awake and because I immediately imagine my own history I'm instantly put in this awful position about how to help.

It is possible that some of the JMH's neighbours are feeling the same way because they've been in a similar situation in their own past.

 

[Springer80]

One last idea. Do you have a liaison officer to help you through the legal process of your court case? Could you talk to them about the housing situation? They may be able to write something on your behalf too and/or put you in touch with housing law specialists if required.

 

[Justmehere]

I called the Americans with didabilties act coordinators and thy said this is protected under the fair housing act, so I called the housing and I ran development office that handles the fair housing act and left a message.

That being said, I really do not want to go that route or have to go that route... And I would feel bad about that. Eh, I'll cross that bridge later if needed.

For now, I want to work everything out with my neighbors. I can't type asuch as I would like from my phone but a quick update - I'm now walking back home to see if they are around and a conversation can help mend things. I am really glad to read everyone's feedback. It's so so so helpful!!!

 

[desiderata310]

Anxious to hear how it goes!

 

[Justmehere]

They were not home yet :(

 

[desiderata310]

All good! Don't stress. They will be home later

 

[Justmehere]

I made cookies to give them. Knocked on one door a and one of the girls mother was there! But not the tenants who love there. I told her I wanted to apologize for something. She told me to feel free come back later... and I awkwardly gave her the cookies and said ok...

 

[desiderata310]

Perfect! This is good!!

 

[Justmehere]

A friend stopped by after going upstairs the first time. She knows what happened and offered to be around for moral support.

The neighbor whose mom was here, she came home. So I went up and told her how I was sorry my being upset affected them - and pretty much the things you all wrote here to say. It was hard, but it was the right thing to do, regardless of anything. I was awkward. I gave her cookies though. She was super friendly. She was so glad for the cookies and really quite kind.

I nearly had a panic attack before and I felt numb afterwards... and my friend hugged me and said I did good. She said the next one will be easier. She wasn't home tonight, so I will try again tomorrow.

I feel really glad I did that. Stay or go, it was the right thing for me to do. And now maybe I will have a better connection to neighbors while I'm here... It all oddly helped me feel more human.

Thanks again everyone for the support as I go through this! I do hope the next apology is easier.

I'm exhausted, sad, sleepy... and so hoping all goes ok tomorrow.

 

[desiderata310]

VERY proud of you! I understand how difficult it must be to talk to people like that but you did it and you were amazing.
You may yet have a support network to help you out right there in the complex!

 

[Springer80]

Really well done. I'm a little misty eyed writing this, no joke. Nobody other than other sufferers knows how hard 'normal' things like this are. How much courage you have to have, how much you have to steal yourself emotionally, physically, mentally etc.

I bet your absolutely drained and fried but I think you did SO well. YOU DESERVE A TREAT :smug: You accepted help from your friend, the cookies were a great idea and you had to go back twice after your first attempt stalled. That can't have been easy.

You said you were awkward. Well it is an awkward situation, incredibly so. It would have been weird if you'd waltzed in all breezy and casually told them all about something so hard but YOU DID IT! :D :tup::tup::tup::tup::tup: :notworthy::notworthy::notworthy::notworthy::notworthy::notworthy::woot:

The next time will be easier, get you friend over again. Take her with you? If it makes it easier who cares, take a wing girl! Especially if it helps reduce the panic attack feeling before.

Also great idea calling the didlibilities people :giggle: , it is good to know your rights just in case you have to use 'em quick but I agree with you, no need to bring out the big guns. Everyone seems nice and doing their best to resolve this so it would only get people's backs up and you don't need that either.

Best thing you said....'It all oddly made me feel more human' :hug:

Good luck with the rest of it. Look after yourself in between :sleep: