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anthony
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I think that is exactly on the money actually Awakening... use, abuse, dependence. There is nothing wrong with using alcohol, as long as you keep it in moderation, being no more than 2 standard drinks daily, 2 alcohol free days a week. Then most will abuse at some points, parties, special occasions, etc, as we know it, binge drinking. Dependence is the only worrisome one... that is where intervention must be placed at some point, and the core of the issue found. 99.9% of people who are alcoholics are not addicted to alcohol, its actually quite a myth, and in fact there is an underlying issue as to why dependence is sought. Poverty is one reason, people living in poverty want the numbness... change the poverty and suddenly they change the requirement to be numb, hence remove dependence on their own / with help.
AA works for some, it causes more problems overall IMHO, because it promotes abstinence vs. learning how to be responsible with alcohol. Abstinence only promotes cravings and desires, so if someone has a really bad day, week or month, and it will happen because we all have those periods in life, then instead of using alcohol they "fall of the wagon" as Americans say, and go from abstinence to abuse, and even back into dependence again if left unchecked.
This brings around a whole bunch of negative feelings, such as remorse, guilt, shame, etc, all of which are not warranted at any time because the person should not be feeling negative about something they can learn to use in moderation vs. now they have obtained a negative thinking pattern of all or nothing (abuse or abstinence). This model is proven to be extremely dangerous, yet AA use it and promote it prolifically as a positive, when in fact it has always been a negative behavior pattern.
AA works for some, it causes more problems overall IMHO, because it promotes abstinence vs. learning how to be responsible with alcohol. Abstinence only promotes cravings and desires, so if someone has a really bad day, week or month, and it will happen because we all have those periods in life, then instead of using alcohol they "fall of the wagon" as Americans say, and go from abstinence to abuse, and even back into dependence again if left unchecked.
This brings around a whole bunch of negative feelings, such as remorse, guilt, shame, etc, all of which are not warranted at any time because the person should not be feeling negative about something they can learn to use in moderation vs. now they have obtained a negative thinking pattern of all or nothing (abuse or abstinence). This model is proven to be extremely dangerous, yet AA use it and promote it prolifically as a positive, when in fact it has always been a negative behavior pattern.