How Do I Do This ?

[Jane.l]

Actually talking it out on here is helping me to see it more clearly. I thought all the difficulty in therapy would be on the tough stuff - never realised that the relationship would cause so much angst - but then I never thought I would form an emotional trusting bond - guess it's a good thing even if it hurts.

 

[digger]

It also takes me ages to process things we work on in session so quite often I have to do a lot of thinking before I work out what I feel about it and it's then that I am looking for the reassurance or if I am working through stuff that brings up a lot of shame and guilt I need to know that he's still ok with me.

I get that too. Very often things that we've talked about in session only really filter through over the course of the week. And yes, sometimes it would be really useful to check what she meant by something or if I've understood something right. A week can feel like a long time sometimes when you're unsure of something!

. I thought all the difficulty in therapy would be on the tough stuff - never realised that the relationship would cause so much angst - but then I never thought I would form an emotional trusting bond - guess it's a good thing even if it hurts.

Yeah...the longer I'm in therapy, the more I realise I didn't actually have a clue about therapy or how it 'worked' going into it. ;)

 

[Jane.l]

Digger that's so true I never thought about how therapy worked - I just suddenly desperately needed help , it just sort of became impossible to contain and however hard this relationship is I still consider myself very lucky as I don't believe I would have come this far with any other T - just got to try and keep going

 

[anthony]

Thanks @digger... it is a difficult one to explain, absolutely. Well said in places.