How Do I Heal From Ptsd Having To Live With Threats?

[kstg]

can you shut down your current email and start up another one? There are so many free options out there on the internet. Yes, it stinks to have to transfer over your contact information for dozens if not hundreds of contacts, but it can be well worth it to ensure that you aren't getting triggered just by opening your email. Are there other ways that he is harassing you?

He hacks my computer, so anything I do there is monitored. He also hacks my networks, so anything I send can be assumed monitored. It is almost impossible to secure yourself against it. It is like having your home bugged....

I have changed computers, phones, network, e-mail, social media, everything, and he still reads my things. It is hell.

He harassess me in other ways, too, yes.

 

[kstg]

Many people do not understand what psychopaths are capable of therefore they 'mistrust' or disrespect or minimize the experience. I am so sorry. I have walked this road and I found the t's didn't get it. I did however, find a resource here in Canada called DASA (Domestic Abuse and Sexual Assault) who were excellent at helping me formulate a safety plan. They actually believe you and I think validation is very important in this case. The whole thought pattern of a psychopath is to put you into freeze mode. I found that DASA had much experience in dealing with these types and helped me get out of the freeze mode - helping me to be more proactive. I feel for you. I know how scrambled and terrifying this can be. Godspeed.....

Thank you. It is hard to explain, isn't it? People expect rationality. "if he stole from you, he'll leave you alone if you leave him alone". Not true. When I stopped trying to contact him, he freaked out, and started sending me threat mails. This is not about money or criminality or rationality. This is about that guy seeing me as "his" victim, and he wants to play more. It is psychopathy, not rationality. And it was a fraud relationship revealed as nothing but abuse, not a relationship gone wrong. Too many people think this is a relationship gone wrong. It is not. I would have loved to end this in a normal way. But he doesn't really want it to end. He ran off and scared me to hurt me, and when that no longer hurt me, he started threatening. It is not over, and it was never a relationship. It is going on and it was a game from his side from the start. I think psychopathy is far too unknown for how common it seems to be, given the tens of thousand victims registered on the psychopath victim forums. I don't know why it isn't talked more about? It is strange, given the extreme damage these horror people inflict on others, who are capable of empathy and love, and who don't understand that people can pretend to love, just to hurt others.

Thank you for your advices. I will look into my options. There is a lot of support in my lawyer and in the crisis senter for abuse victims, who understand better, and police do what they can, actually. :)

And still, in the middle of all that, I need to heal my PTSD from the initial blast and from the abuse during the relationship. Mental, physical, emotional. It is very hard to not freak out when he constantly triggers me.

 

[shimmerz]

It is very hard to not freak out when he constantly triggers me.

That is the whole idea. It is so difficult when people say 'why would he do that?' Puuuuhhhhlease! It sounds like you have resources - so that is excellent. Remember that you can trust a bully to bully. Stand with your head held high @kstg. Even if things don't work out exactly the way you want them to - you always know you stood your ground.

Also, I am a computer forensics specialist. If you need help with his invading your computer please let me know. Feel free to PM me.