How Do I Improve My Opinion About Humans?

[morgan]

I disagree with deluding yourself. I feel that if you put yourself in positive places you will meet more positive people and that will help restore your faith in humanity.

There are shelters everywhere that help both animals and humans alike. Surely it takes a certain kind of special human being to work in such places. Therapists are often very special people for they make their living helping people with serious issues. Not an easy job!

Anyway, there are beautiful people in this world. You just gotta know where to find them. It's not as hard as you might think.

JMHO, Morgan

 

[Deleted member 541]

Morgan I agree completely with you. There are good people in the world. When you are negative, down, and have ill thoughts about others, then you attract that type of person, and get that type of treatment.

There are healthy, good, and wonderful people in the world, but you have to be willing to change yourself to find them....

 

[sirsir]

Wow I see alot of good advise within your comments.
People are not mindly creatures. They think and act. I agree my opinion of people is jaded by my less than positive out look about them. However how do I admit the good in humanity with out admitting the bad in me. If people are good then why did I kill them for their belief? I do not believe that people have not changed since the dawn of time. However thier devices for disstruction have greatly improved. If people are good naturally then how do they become evil? Yes I know several good people but most people I come in contact with are evil. Yes I have seen evil people turn to good. However we are talking in general (most). I believe that people make choices every day that they must live with the rest of their lives. I train good people to watch out for evil people. Just because a person claims to be good you can not trust that you must watch and judge from their actions. Peace for now.

 

[anthony]

There are alot of bad people in the world.... there are also a lot of good people in the world, even though those good may be quite ignorant to others, that doesn't make them bad... just ignorant. I believe the good still outweighs the bad presently, otherwise we would live in chaos with no civility whatsoever.

I don't believe anyone can change your mind sirsir.... only you can do that one based on your own beliefs. Is it wrong to believe the human race is bad? I don't believe it is wrong or right, just personal choice is must be respected IMO. If we all thought alike, the world would be quite boring.

 

[sirsir]

Anthony I agree that if we were all alike the world would not be half as interesting. It is our differences that we should embrace. Let's go back in time. When we were all much younger did we not hear stories about other people were going out of their way to help their fellow man. I feel that I must believe that humans are basically good. If I can not trust in Humanity to be good then why should I try to be better. I agree that their must be some good left in the world or we would live in choas. I realize that just because some people have lost touch with what is good inside of them I must not. However I wish I could see bunny rabbits at every tree. :rolleyes: I can not make other people turn from their evil ways. However If I get myself better I might be able to influence someone else to work on becoming better. This will be the last entry I make on this thread. Mainly because at this time I am not ready to believe in humans and until I'm ready my mind can not be changed. I know the reasons why I should believe in humans. However I know the reasons I don't believe in them. Peace for Now.

 

[Tinyflame]

sirsir, I hate to say but I must agree. I don't think every person is "inherently bad", but unfortunately (speaking for myself only), I find many to be disingenous in the way that they might think they mean well but when push comes to shove there's not too many around when the smoke clears.
-Guess the ones who are still there are special indeed - obviously they "get it".

What I wish is that they would just be up front, hopefully with some tact and kindness, but definitely with some honesty.
Mind you, I have to be a better judge of character, I guess. I appreciate your post today because I asked someone for help (Y or N answer) a couple of days ago Re: this story retelling business, and they just avoided the issue. -A simple yes or no (-"No." IS a complete sentence and would have been just fine!) would have sufficed, and I think I was pretty clear about that. Now I just feel foolish for saying anything about ptsd, in particular. I felt like saying, "You make think I'm this, that or the other thing, but I'm not stupid." I don't blame the person for not wanting to help, but just saying so would have been a bit more respectful- I felt like the white elephant in the room. Actions speak louder than words!

-Either I'm a lousy judge of character or I'm just getting an eye-opener. Anyway, it sure was a lousy experience for asking for help and/or growing in trust and self acceptance but I guess you've got to try to eliminate the negative and concentrate on the positive.

Thanks for your post anyway.

 

[Tinyflame]

-Sorry to ramble on - thought of something later, when wasn't feeling so self-justified: in my case, certainly probably mostly reflects MY OWN doubts and self-conciousness and self-rejection, irregardless of what anyone else thinks or does. THAT part I can work on (-and BOY, do I need a lot of work!)

 

[sirsir]

Well let's try this again

My basic opinions about humans have not changed since my last entry on this thread. However I have been going out of my way to find more of the good. I am still hypervigilant and have to watch my first impression of people. People are what people are, however how I preceive them is slowly changing. People still disappoint me but now I trying to see their side of what they are doing.

 

[FlameTachiku]

My dad started teaching me to look at people from their experience when I was a little girl. Your talk (new effort) reminds me of him, thank you.

 

[midi]

Maybe we need to see the good in ourselves before we see the good in others. I believe that it isn't black and white, as many see it out of fear. We all have good and bad--and these elements fluctuate. I can be quite the vicious little beast at times and yet other times I'm caring. In my scarred state of being, sometimes it's easier to say the world (including myself) is bad, that way, there is no disappointment. The human animal is complicated, like the lion, who can rip a gazelle to shreads one minute and then play with a lion cub the next.

 

[shiraz]

I have no good memories of my childhood. My siblings remember good times though .. infact, it was 'kiddie heaven' for them - they still idealise my parents today (denial I call it). I had PTSD and learnt from a young age to be fearful and distrustful of both parents. PTSD makes you focus in on threat and that blocks out everything else, including the possibility for experiencing good and happiness.

The thing I have to remember is that I have good inside of me ... and by the sounds of it, most of you think you have some good inside of you too. So that already makes a whole lot of us good. We tend to see evil in all others. I think that goes for all people, PTSD or not ... we all have the potential for good and for evil. Good attracts good (evil just tries its luck everywhere) so, I try to be the best I can be and despite mistrusting - expect people to respond likewise.

Not easy to change a hardened position on something like this, but it is possible if we start with the premisse that we are all quite similar and feel similar things and all quite capable of good.

 

[sirsir]

I when to the VA yesterday.

Well how do I say this and still come off politically correct? Since I am not in the mood to be PC please forgive me for a minute so I can get this out of my system. The VA did not even come close to improving my opinion about human nature. I have been discussing with them for awhile about my PTSD. They have rated me for PTSD. They will not let me go to treatment for my PTSD. They wanted to treat me for stress, anger management, and impulsive explosive anger personallity(what ever that is). I have been seeing these people for about 7 months. I have given them a ton of information about my condition. I have seen 4 psych. Dr. and one social worker incharge of the PTSD program. 3 psych. Dr. said I have PTSD one Dr. did not share his opinion. The social worker said I just have anger issues. I expressed to them yesterday that they need to treat the root of the problem first and then some other issues would work themselves out. I feel that they are just trying to get out of treating me. Although I was PC at the VA I told them to get off of their a** and get me into a program that is suited for me.
While at the VA yesterday I saw alot of hurting people trying to be as nice as their pain would alot them to be. Some of my compasion is coming back. However yesterday did not feel me with comfort about the rest of the human race. I work hard at my job. I am only asking others to do the same. Thank you for enduring my rant. Peace for now.