General How Do I...?

[xxarmywifexx]

She Cat,

I thank you for the advice, I'm going to have to make myself a little diagram of all these little avenues this could take and be. I wish things were simple and clean cut...

I spent some time talking with my husband last night but not about my friend. I've come to realize that he knows I'm stressed, he sees it. He mentioned to me that I'm quick to anger sometimes and he is worried. I never noticed this about myself...maybe its time for some self-reflection?

I wrote another note to my friend. I told her to give me sometime to figure things out..that if our friendship meant that much it would last this test. She wrote back and agreed. She knows that my husband doesn't hate her, she admited that she was speaking out of anger tword him and hates him for some of the stuff that he is putting me through. I don't tell her much...so again..maybe she sees something in me I don't ...damn, self-reflection again.

All hands point to it. I need to work on me, I guess.

Blah.

-xxarmywifexx

 

[Deleted member 541]

Armywife,

I'm glad that you had a talk with him. It's simple when we can open up to our loved ones and just talk.......I'm sure that you are stressed. You work, you have kids, a husband that has PTSD, you are his carer, you have a life, a full one.

Please do take care of yourself, but for YOU!!!!!! Not for anyone else. You need to be strong for you, and take care of your needs also. Sometimes we just get so caught up in things that we forget that we too have needs and wants.

Hang in there......

 

[xxarmywifexx]

She Cat,

Thanks so much for the response, I'm so happy I found you a few others that are helping me find my way through this dark place I find myself in.

xxarmywifexx

 

[Cowgirl]

If I can ask what is DH?

Sorry I missed this before. DH is short for "D____ Husband." People typically mean "Dear" or "Darling" but sometimes, after a really bad day, they might mean "Danged" or something along those lines. :wink:

~ Cowgirl

 

[Seychelle]

I wonder if your husband IS causing drama so that your friend will stay away and not come over NOT because he hates her, but because of the PTSD.

Armywife, She Cat's suggestion is possible. If I'm not coping, the last thing I want is for my OH (other half) to invite people over to our house. But I'm usually pretty comfortable with him going out and doing whatever, even if I'm having a really bad day. Perhaps you could go out with your friend for coffee instead of inviting her to your house? (assuming that you and your friend manage to patch up the friendship)

 

[xxarmywifexx]

Seychelle,

It's very possible that this is the case. When I told him I wanted to cancel the plans with my friend he simply stated "you don't have to, you two should just go out and have fun"

...maybe I should listen to him more. :crazy: