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Thank you all for sharing and your views. Sounds like there is a mixture of crying giving relief and also not.
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I had a sob I think a year ago and that felt scary in the moment as I had lost control but also really healing. When a year escapes it doesn't really feel much better. I think.
I don't know the answer. Because crying at a soppy film makes me feel something. I know that. But just not sure what. And I haven't linked it to relief when I am in the state. And not sure I can handle a soppy film whilst in that state to experiment, because most soppy films I am likely to find something problematic when triggered and turn it off. But I could always try...I was just thinking....you said you cry at soppy films etc. Does that help at all? Or is it not the same/does it not really provide relief/release?
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Yeah, I hear that.I often can't remember 'what' to be angry about? But I'd just say hurt, and sometimes then if it's only me, what's the point? But sometimes silent ones sneek up on me. Can't say I feel better for it though.
So it was all that was left or able to do was cry? (Sorry to ask and ignore if not appropriate to ask, I know this is trauma).It may tie back to what it took to make me cry around my first trauma. Most people will never experience a swollen eye (because of internal bleeding) but it is unbelievably painful. I remember one of the nurses coming in to change dressings and first she asked how my dressing got all wet and then realized why and had to stop for a minute or two. When the painkillers wore off any movement hurt so bad all I could do was lie there and cry.....
Are you able to say what the difference is? In terms of the crying. Is it how much you cry or how you cry?I tthink. One kind does bring great relief yes, I call it clean grief
Other tears are unbearable, they come with terrible pain and they do not bring any relief at all.
I had a sob I think a year ago and that felt scary in the moment as I had lost control but also really healing. When a year escapes it doesn't really feel much better. I think.
Yeah, I hear that. I think for me I am learning how to express myself and having not done that growing up, I feel like I need to cry for me. Not for them. They won't see it or know it or even care.I don't, i refuse to let those that try to hurt me get the satisfaction of my tears
So it's involuntary.Yeah. It happens when 20 other things are happening and then hey, I am f'n crying on top of all of the other swirling mess. I have
Happy for advice!!Sometimes I can cry and sometimes not. Like you, the tears will well up but stop at the eyeballs! I have cried so much and so often though and I wonder how much more healing needs to be done?!
I do absolutely know though, for me anyway, that after a big cry, I feel better. Not always immediately after, sometimes a few hours and sometimes not until the next day but I feel like, some of the pressure from the pain has been relieved but, I don;t think crying is the whole package. There is angering and blaming etc too.
If I feel I need to cry, I will put on a movie or music which will facilitate it.
Anyway, I'm not giving advice as you didn't ask for it. This is just my opinion and I hope my thoughts and experiences lead you only to healing.