How Do You Dress For T?

[Cleo6]

I always wear jeans t shirt and a zipped hooded jumper. She always comments on my jumper. It varies between 2 and if I wear the purple one she will comment on it and if I don't wear it she will make some comment about me not wearing it. I also always wear trainers I've even taken my trainers when I've been wearing flip flops and changed into them just before session as it feels to weird not to wear them clothes. It's like everything has to be covered and I need jumpers as I always fidget and play with the sleeves so I need them. I've also never worn a coat even when it's been freezing and it's just over half an hour walk as I don't know what I would do with it then it stresses me out thinking about it. I also refuse to drive haven't parked at hers since Xmas I use to walk from home now I've moved I park at the super market and walk as her drive way was full of cars and it really stressed me out as can't park on her road due to restrictions. I'm gonna ask her next week if she has issues about me wearing the same clothes if she comments on it

 

[GWhizz]

Just to add I never wear anything potentially exposing as I have scars that I don't wanna draw any attention to...

 

[watundah]

It's one of the few times I try to look nice now that I don't have a job. I don't mind wearing shorts but they're my good shorts. ;-)

 

[Deleted member 12723]

I wear when I do go, soft, comfortable clothes which I wear most of the time, it was an issue for me at the beginning of therapy so many years ago. But I go for soft and comfortable as much as I can get away with it.

 

[Deleted member 28403]

Uhh, well, normal clothes :p

But I guess my whole wardrobe contains of a couple T-shirts, a couple pants, some underpants, some socks, and thats mainly it.

So not really any option :p Other than the choosing whether I'm gonna be wearing the T-shirts with holes or without :)

 

[Ronin]

One of my therapists was badly policing what I wear.
So double thinking dress code since her.

I tend to go for casual or formal, depending what I'm planning on as a topic.

If I need to relax or if I need a sense of dignity and distance.

 

[Hope1969]

Yep. It's an issue with me too. Maybe because my T looks very good and I am fat I feel the need to dress the best I can. I don't think she cares how I dress but I am afraid to be judged. Maybe because my mother used to judged my apearence and the way I dressed I am afraid to be judged by my T.

 

[KeepingTime]

Wow I guess I'm NOT the only one. lol

(gotta be nekkid for those, but I'm under a sheet)

Ok Eagle there's no way I could handle this!! :nailbiting: How in the world do you do it????

If my clothes are "wrong", my whole day can be ruined.

This is how I feel when I've tried to step outside my comfort zone. I can't focus on talking because I'm so uncomfortable.

Always grab that pillow and curl up.

Oh that sounds nice. Maybe if I brought in a throw pillow t would let me leave it there to use.

A lot of y'all talked about putting your feet up on the couch. I guess mine is different. My t lays back on the couch and I sit in the chair. (T has back issues)

I like winter time when I can wear a sweatshirt or hoodie so I can have as much "bulk" as possible and sleeves to fiddle with.

I guess when I first started seeing t and I worked I came in my casual work clothes. Since then I just can't change from my t shirt and jeans. I'm ok with it but I really like to wear flip flops and capris when it's hot and I can't bring myself to do it.

And I guess at this point any change would draw attention to myself so that makes it harder.

It's been great to read all of your responses!! Thanks!

 

[Missycat]

I would usually wear jeans and a shirt or t shirt and boots or trainers. I try and be comfy and as ive become more comfortable with therapy ive become more casual. I always wear best bra and matching underwear as when i was little there was an old yorkshire saying of 'if ya goin out wear ya best knickers in case ya end up in hospital or if ya get hit by a tram' !! Surprising what sticks !
I always wear something baggy as i tend to fidget and then when the conversation gets a little difficult i tend to curl up and pull my tshirt over my knees - its a protective thing i do !

 

[NightSky]

I wear something comfortable. Lately I've been living in leggings. Last week I wore a new skirt, but...

I want to do this- curl up and grab a pillow. For a year my T is telling me I can use the pillow, but when I come in I'm upright with my legs crossed and then I'm stuck that way for the hour. I hope I can get to that point.

 

[Pakadlangitok]

Totally! This is a good topic and one I am thinking about. Why do we do this?? I think I do it not to confuse her. If I am myself I confuse people and they run away. I don't want to confuse her so I try to be so out of the norm consistent which is not me.

 

[Chosen]

I usually wear shorts and a t-shirt. I get to go hiking with my T, and that's the best kind of clothes to wear. Plus it's just the most comfortable for me, too.