Hi, I have a similar family past. For ages it was known that my granddad sexually molested my three aunts, and my family still associated with him mainly for my Nan's sake, he always swore he only ever done anything to the girls and he had always acted alone. But you cannot trust someone like that. Earlier this year my granddad died and leading up to his death my dad had panic attacks, after he died my dad had full flash backs of my granddad raping him and taking him to 'parties' to be gang raped and beaten repeatedly. He remembers his mum knowing that something was going on and she always told him to stop crying and deal with it. She is in denial about it now. My point is you cannot trust a sex offender even if they are family. I think you should look into it.
Also, when I found out about what happened to my dad, it killed my sex drive and I didn't want to have sex my boyfriend although I didn't want to tell him, because I thought I was being silly since it hadn't even happened to me. so I'd make excuses not to. One night I decided if I had sex with him it might be alright. Afterwards my boyfriend asked me what was a matter I burst into tears and told him. After that we've been fine. It might be good to tell your husband how you feel, especially since you're married to him.
Also, when I found out about what happened to my dad, it killed my sex drive and I didn't want to have sex my boyfriend although I didn't want to tell him, because I thought I was being silly since it hadn't even happened to me. so I'd make excuses not to. One night I decided if I had sex with him it might be alright. Afterwards my boyfriend asked me what was a matter I burst into tears and told him. After that we've been fine. It might be good to tell your husband how you feel, especially since you're married to him.
