How do you self care on the really bad days?

SeekingAfrica

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I'm having one of those, when I packed all my things for working at a cafe (or applying to jobs)... and then I unpacked it back because I was panicking. Then I cried for no reason. I start happy tv shows and I can't pay attention. I can't stop eating. I cant stop feeling like the whole world around me doesn't depend on me. I have no control or impact. Afternoon and evenings I can't workout because the only room I can have space to exercise will have the tv on and I would have to be in front of it. Eating is at certain times. Waking at 9am is reason to be woken up unless I warn them. When I go anywhere by bus I need the schedule because we are in village at the edge of the city. Everything stresses menout here. The cafe is my oasis, but couldn't get ouf the front door to get the bus.

I've been sleeping and eating and it's noon. Maybe it's not high work day, but I don't want it to be a wasted day either... Brings up dark parts of me and questioning everything. Especially myself, my work, my worth....what can I do? So far organising paperwork, and reading Dostoyevsky are the only things making sense. And sleeping. But I already had a fight with my mother about having a bad day, and planning the next days of job applications and working on my shop makes me anxious....
 
@SeekingAfrica
I’m sorry that you are struggling, too! It’s an every day battle for me as well, only the circumstances are different.

I wake up in an overwhelmed mental and emotional state and it takes most of the day to feel somewhat better, maybe because I know that bedtime is coming?

You aren’t alone in the feelings…sending good vibes and rushes of some good feelings springing up from deep inside you. This time won’t last forever! I count on it 💜
Oh, on the worst days I just survive.
 
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Just one little tiny thing at a time. Be okay letting the rest go (scary painful difficult or anything else) but worth aiming for.

Memories of mine: brush teeth. Lay down and cry. Tell self that’s probably a good amount of energy spent on crying and cold water on my face to force the crying to stop bc otherwise it won’t.

Lay down start crying. Tell myself again it’s okay. I’m safe. And count things around the room I’m thankful for. Warm clean blanket. Soft cat fur.

Textures help me quickly

Sending prayers. I cried this morning bc I talked trauma yesterday. I need a sticky note on that door as a warning or why not a lock

Sorry got distracted.
Is there anything you think might help but not sure?

Usually sleep always helps me. I can spend days or weeks trying to sleep well but once I do my brain and moods are better.
 
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@AngelKeeperJ thank you. Comments help me be less alone. But still most of the days before now we're better, even if a little bit. Today was a crash back into the days when I feel completely broken and unrepairable. I'm guessing it's because on bad days in my own place I would cry or whatever I felt like. But given the circumstances and conversations, at my parents place I watch movies and push feelings down... leading to today.
To a point where I'm not sure what is wrong. what helps andvwhat doesn't.

@Defaultxlove thanks. Well, if I was able to actually feel how I feel and then journal to figure out thd cause that helps. Resting helps, reorganizing too. Did the last 2.
But I need to figure out how to navigate being here better. Or else I'm afraid of being stuck here for a long time...
Also sometime only time helps. Losing myself in something pleasant and distracting.

P.s. everything just hurts today. Which makes future planning worse.
 
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i take extra care with small comforts and amends. when i lash out at people during my psychosis, i take care to make small peace offerings whenever possible. right/wrong doesn't matter in the lashings. what matters is calming a source of stress. i don't discount the possibility that the day could get better.
 
What things do you find comfy?
My mind is such a mess that I'm not sure the answer to that anymore besides ballet(watching, doing, music) and how drinks/showers/baths, music on loud and freestyle dancing, harry potter books or movies, watching or reading something so familiar I kniw what happens.... or on the unhealthy spectrum, chips, writing dark and dramatic fanfiction, naps....

I need to think more on that question.
 
Needs instead of wants… or wants instead of needs… depending on where I’m unbalanced.

Hard times? Means I’m unbalanced or off balanced by definition. If I’m fighting for survival? Hedonising some wants supercharges me to go faaaaar beyond survival. Conversely, if I’m in the land of wants being left/right/everywhere… going after basic needs super charges me.

Find the imbalance, and meet it.

That’s the most effective thing I know of.

Since your needs are -finally- met with your parents? Do. Something. Frivolous. And watch your ability to meet your own needs get exponentially better, so being with your parents is extra.
 
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