How Do You Live In This World?

[Namenotdiagnosis]

Notsowild !!!! A bit freaky ! R u sure we don't work in the same place??? Uve just described my work and my line manager, and I hate totally despise control freaks and recently all we do is argue. She knows my condition and had done for 15 years but fortunately for her she's had a very lovely life and not had to face the battles most people do so she doesn't really get it and to top it up she's soooo old school!

 

[bell]

@Namenotdiagnosis, how do you know that she has had a lovely life? Because, in my opinion, unless you're conjoined twins, you have zero idea of what anyone's life is like outside of the snippet of time you're with them. You may work with them 40, 60, 80 hours a week, but daring to think they've had a "lovely life" is a waste of time, all you get is what they choose to show, not the reality of their actual everyday real life.

It really gets my goat when people make assumptions and therefore think they are entitled to judge others, when they, in fact, know nothing. You waste your time comparing instead of making your own life better.

And yes, we all do it, but that doesn't make it right.

 

[Notsowild]

Had my union meeting today to fight my suspension in March. They said they'd give me 2 days pay ( I lost three days pay) but they would not remove it from my file. As some might know it was over an incident where my boss kept badgering me, I got panicked and accidentally bumped her to get away. She said I pushed her and suspended me.

I was so anxious going into the meeting. There was my boss, her boss and my union rep. I did think that it would be retracted knowing my PTSD diagnosis ( that my boss ignored at the time ). So I was quite angry it wasn't and I had to leave a few times because I started to panic.

I am going to file a Human rights claim under the disability act. I don't think they should be allowed to get away with this. Some tell me to let it go but it's like being abuse all over again. I left the meeting and cried in my car for an hour. I felt dissociative and had suicidal thoughts all day. Should I just let it go?

 

[Namenotdiagnosis]

Bell I know she has coz apart from knowing her 20 years she openly tells me that she has been blessed with a comfortable and happy life and that is y she finds it very difficult to understand peoples problems in life, I would never make assumptions on anyone unless I was clear of the facts,

 

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@bell.

Pot. Kettle. Black.

Yes, your posts are quite judgmental yet you slam others for being judgmental.

 

[anonymous]

We're all full of idiosyncrasies and inconsistencies; I am, too.

However, I believe that we are here to move forward the best we can and help others to do the same.

I don't think I am better than anyone else and try my best not to pass judgement on anyone, but I am human, it happens. Especially over the internet when voice inflections and facial expressions are nil.

I have been there spinning and seething and raging and shaking, but just because I dare to believe that there is more than that (and try to tell others there is more than that), am I wrong? Maybe. Possibly. Depending on where people are in their healing, probably.

But I will never apologize for trying to help people be their best, because I believe in them. Sure I get it wrong, we all do. But I always err on the side of hope and fighting and goodness, because I believe in them, too.

 

[bell]

Oops, that was me, I hit the Anon button by mistake on my phone!