Death How i got ptsd: when death isn't "normal"

[SomeoneFemale]

Gotcha sorry

No worries

 

[Deleted member 541]

I’m very sorry for your loss, and I’m hoping that you can have the much needed support from the members here....

 

[SomeoneFemale]

I’m very sorry for your loss, and I’m hoping that you can have the much needed support from the membe...

Thank you.

 

[Lost Marbles]

I'm going to try and muddle my way throw this, for have a couple of things I'd like to share with you;

First of all, speaking as a person who has lost a friend to suicide, I have lots of empathy for what you have been through. I my case, I witnessed my friend's suicide and was powerless to stop him. I am sure his family blamed me for I was told not to attend his wake and funeral, not to send flowers, cards or express my condolences. This was extremely hurtful, and yeah, it sucks.

Secondly, as person who lives with suicidal ideation, I can pretty much assure you that you are not in any way at fault, you are a victim. I takes quit a bit to push a person to the point where they believe they are helpless and life is hopeless and death is the only means of relief.

I hope my words help you on your journey to recover.

 

[Deleted member 40995]

It's just so odd, now, years later, that people look at me and think I'm young and haven't experi...

That is so true. People look at age and assume we haven’t had as much life experience or don’t think it’s possible to have experienced severe trauma by a young age. I can relate :hug:

 

[SomeoneFemale]

I'm going to try and muddle my way throw this, for have a couple of things I'd like to share with...

Thank you

That is so true. People look at age and assume we haven’t had as much life experience or don’t thin...

I remember when people used to say things like "don't sweat the small stuff" and "don't get upset over little things" and so now, after living through that, whenever I am sweating the small stuff I think two things.
1st Look how much I've healed from his death that little things can actually bother me again
2nd Just let someone tell me not to sweat the small stuff now so I can tell them they are incorrect

But no one ever says that anymore anyway

 

[Deleted member 40995]

I remember when people used to say things like "don't sweat the small stuff" and "don't get upset...

The one I got all the time was people half jokingly rolling their eyes and saying “Oh, you’re too young to be (whatever was going on)” happens a lot when I start to explain like say I am struggling with flashback and haven’t slept in a few nights and I try to explain this and they just say, “oh your too young for that, haven’t seen enough of life” or “your too young to be like that, wait till you are my age then you will really see what tired feels like”

 

[Suzy BA]

I feel so awful for you, my husband died just over a year ago, I was woken in the night by the police and it turns out he wasn't at work like I thought but in a nearby hotel with another woman. The reason I am telling you this is that despite his behaviour, my MIL put all her expectations on me and has almost cut off contact with me and her granddaughter because I don't and haven't behaved in the way she expects. I should be the grieving widow and spend my life indoors dressed in black. She manages to forget what he did - I wish I could. Well I say f*ck everyone else and their expectations - only you know the truth and what is right for you xxx