How To Grieve?

[Loner]

he did sound like a stereotypical gay man, which didn't really help with the chemistry attraction side of things. He claimed he was heterosexual, but when he went to kiss me, I instinctively pulled away and just couldn't go there. It messed with my head a bit

No offense but thats kind of comical. I was so struck by the second part of your post I forgot to reply to the first.

On the flip side of this, the first date I went on this summer was with a cute smart girl who I actually was fairly attracted to. We went to an outdoor concert and were sitting on the grass a ways back from the stage away from other people. She put lipstick on, very obviously, about three maybe even four times in 20 minutes. Obviously, she wanted me to kiss her, but I just wasnt sure, I just wanted to get to know her a bit more before I was sure I wanted to kiss her, so I didn't. I think she was a bit put off by that, women arent used to being rejected, or perhaps she just didnt know why I didnt go for it, couldnt get a read on me, which ties into the other thing about not being sure about weird people. Who knows. I still really don't get how to act on dates at all, but I'd like to go on some more.

 

[Philippa]

Hmmm, Do men find kissing women covered in lipstick really appealing...because that shit is full of...well, shit! The idea of putting my mouth onto lead and other nasty chemicals wouldn't appeal to me if I were a man...but I'm not, so I can only imagine what that's like. Some men are into it, and some men aren't I suppose.

She may have thought you didn't like her...but don't worry, many men are notoriously bad for not reading the obvious signs we give to them that we are interested. It sometimes happen in reverse as well.

Yes, it was extremely comical to go on a date with this guy. The really really funny part was when he kept telling me that all his gay friends kept trying to convert him, and were all sure he was gay too. He told me this without me even mentioning to him my own thoughts.

I have lots of comical experiences like this in my reality. It keeps things interesting.

 

[Whitneys story]

"I'll give you something to cry about", ~threat? :unsure:

Bingo! For me anyway, we were not allowed to cry it was weak. In reality it was one invalidation of our emotions that we were not allowed to share. Thank you for reminding me Junebug!

 

[Whitneys story]

Most profound ~ Out of Africa. It is full of lessons.
Somewhere in Time ~
Second Hand Lions, 2 box requirement minimum.:bawling: