How To Stop Dissociation??

[zaniara]

my diary/journal, page 9

Thanks again Safenow! :) Will check it out!

 

[anni]

I hate to be intrusive when you guys have such a good back and forth going on, please excuse if it feel that way.

It's been awhile since I had to work with this, not that it's not an issue, it's because this would be one of those things which has been around for so long that when it shows the heck up it's more of an annoyance than something which makes me crazy. Honestly? I suppose everyone's different but just the whole simple mindfullness thing is what has made alllll the difference for me. You know- checking back in with 20 seconds past 14 minutes past 5 o'clock on Thursday, here I am wearing a blue sweatshirt, my xyz jeans, rats, had to wear my push-up bra this morning, makes me look like an aging sleeze bucket. There are markers in the room, too, like framed photos on the wall you can force your head to engage. ( Photos are great, in point of fact. There's always something, like 'Wow, who says all babies are cute?', or ' Gosh, I'd heard she had 29 cats, never believed it until now. There's an awesome family photo. '

I don't mean to make it sound so easy, I totally realize sometimes it's awful trying to make your head behave. Like I said, everyone is different. Plain old mindfulness has just worked for me pretty much across the board, thought I'd intrude on your thread long enough to say so. :)

 

[zaniara]

anni: that was really helpful! I'm struggling right now to do that.. feeling so foggy.. Its not that easy, but I understand that I really have to try as well as I can.. And I appreciated your reply a lot! :)

 

[anni]

Oh, well you're welcome. The thing is, everyone tends to be different so it's always tough kind of saying ' Do THIS'. Plus, reading here I see I'm hugely behind the current wave on therapy technique, as in what's new in the field. Sometimes the new stuff is truly the next step up, sometimes it's a flash in the pan, I'm SO not qualified to make a call on any of it, to be sure. My own PTSD makes me personally loathe to step outside of my own therpeutic comfort zone on he grounds that I'm a little terrified I'll end up somewhere I can't handle. I might be a fruitcake in some ways, but I'm a contained fruitcake with developed structures which at least 'work', which can be built on ( I think ). This would be one of them, hopefully helpfull to others, as simple as it sounds.


I'll tell you what else genuinely helps? Intentionally trying to add humor, seriously. :) Someone more conversant with therapeutic buzz words would have to tell you why, I just know I find it SO helpful, relaxing, seems to even the playing field or something. I know it's not cool to make fun of people, but throwing someone under the bus in your head to maintain equilibrium isn't going to kill anyone. For instance, with any luck there's a wedding photo somewhere with attendent bridesmaids in putrid green dresses, with hats. Ahem. Pretty easy to stay in the moment when your eyes are bleeding.

 

[zaniara]

anni: I really appreciated your answer, and I agree totally that humor helps! :) - And with some friends and with my T. I actually laugh a lot sometimes(and when I'm able to it really helps so much!)