General How Was Your Day?

[Linzee]

I'm guessing that for a lot of us who have SO's in isolation, we miss that general day to day interaction. Someone to ask you how your day was and you ask them in return. So I thought I would reach out.

Been pretty tough the last few weeks, having started a new job. Today I was getting a better grip on things but still got a ton to learn. Had a Kitkat, herbal peach tea and chicken sandwich for lunch and then worked straight through til home time. Thought about my SO maybe only twice. Didn't check my phone for him.

How about you guys out there, how was your day?

 

[TiffanyBlueandYou]

Hey @Linzee

I'm right there with you. Feeling alone and isolated.
I checked my phone in the morning to see if he had contacted me. Nope.
Checked again at lunch, still nothing.
So I'm putting my phone away for the rest of the day because I care bear to be disappointed when his name doesn't pop up anymore.

I want to thank you for giving me insight and advice, for being so strong throughout this. You give me hope, you give me strength to get up each day.

So, here's my proposal, let's be each other's 'person'. I'll check in on you and we can have that every day interaction. I'm glad you had a better day. I hope tomorrow is even better! =]

 

[Rani G2]

Had a Kitkat, herbal peach tea and chicken sandwich for lunch and then worked straight through til home time.

Getting a new job started and moving on isnt always easy...keep on going Linzee, finding all the resources you need!

I am not a good “How are you?“ talker. Usually when people ask me, I tend to be unsocial which means, if I am not ok I say, no I am pretty shitty. So, I dont Do it. I have a exercise from my T to talk to my Neighbours (If talkable). I am trying....NO human friendly person here. ;-)

Thanks for your asking. My Day was copable...

 

[Linzee]

Hey @Linzee

I'm right there with you. Feeling alone and isolated.
I che...

:hug::tup:

Getting a new job started and moving on isnt always easy...keep on going Linzee, finding all the resour...

:tup:

 

[GrayOwl]

My day?
Searing loneliness at times. Almost paralyzing today - sort of an all time low.
I don't like this emotional place, this cave - so I will go for a walk, feed the birds. Get a few chores done, do a little service work....get out of myself for a while. And maybe see if there is something I can do for my S/O (we live 70 miles apart right now) - something that expresses a little time and effort - and simply share it or leave it for her. Maybe I don't do enough things "simply for her", without expectation of something in return? Food for thought.

Hopefully in a couple days I'll be more the bluebird of happiness instead of ole dark grey owl. Lol.
This is a very very good post. Thank you!
I hope your relationship(s) grow and some comfort and happiness come your way from them.

Relationships certainly are like gardens. They need watering and care and nurturing.
Dealing with guys, and guys with ptsd.....tough stuff.

The wife would probably say living with me has been like
growing mushrooms in her garden - kept in the dark and fed a lot of bullshit.

Hopefully it's never too late to plant some flowers.

 

[Linzee]

My day?
Searing loneliness at times. Almost paralyzing today - sort of an all time low.
I don't like...

Love the garden analogy and birds :chicken:.
During my low times I spent entire weekends in bed and didn't answer my phone. Then had to have a serious word with myself and pull it together.

You're right, its tough. But I hope that bluebird really appear @GrayOwl .

 

[GrayOwl]

Thinking a lot about this post.................
Bought myself a box of low carb snack bars this morning, the type my wife loves.
Money is really tight so this is a big splurge.

I'm going to visit the wife and grand kids (she stays with my daughter 70 miles away). So I got some gift wrap out and wrapped up the whole box and I'm giving it to her. Need to improve the habits on a more regular basis.

There is a big difference between good intentions and action, which probably is too often the case with me. Our thread here is slowing me down enough to actually put good intention in to unselfish action.

Thanks!

And YES !!! Those LOW times really really SUCK.

So sending a big "HALLLOOO" back your way!
Gotta dash - ttyl8tr.

 

[Linzee]

@GrayOwl go get em! :joyful:

 

[Snowflakes]

Thank you @Linzee
It's people like you and everyone else who truly cares that gets me to tomorrow.

I'm sad and I'm tired but my therapist keeps telling me to live in the present. My screen name is @Snowflakes because watching snow falling is comforting to me. It's spring now so I sat outside and watched the birds playing in the trees. They didn't have a care in the world and for a while...neither did I.

Hugs to you and everyone else in this thread :hug:

 

[grimalkin]

My day was more of the same. I'm in a holding pattern until March 8th, then things start to happen. Ooh in one month, I move! I just realized it's one month. But May 8th is when it starts - getting my mom moved to where I am, and the next adventure begins. I fly to Iowa, we get her loaded up, close on two houses (selling one, buying another), and drive drive drive. Two women, one cat, two cars, and thank god for movers!

Of course now that I have plans solidified, I am starting to get interviews for viable jobs - I have one tomorrow. I guess the powers that be wanted me to commit to living with mom for a while.

I realized that pretty much my whole relationship with my husband was a holding pattern of some sort. Me holding my breath until the next outburst, next wrong thing, and waiting for...something.

So now, I'm in a holding pattern for just me. And I'm feeling hopeful, still. I'm starting to shed the feeling of being old before my time (living with someone like my husband who would regularly say "We're too old for that!" was definitely aging), starting to realize that 42 still has a lot of living to do. I'm starting to feel my old self come back, only this time, without the depression that's weighed down my whole life.

And it was a beautiful day to boot. The saguaros are starting to bud (they really open up in June), the prickly pears and barrels have exploded in flowers. Warm, breezy days and cool nights.

So I guess today, I'm doing pretty good. :happy: *hugs all around to those who want them*

 

[GrayOwl]

Holy Crap!

42 ???

You're just a kid still !!

 

[Linzee]

@Snowflakes you are so welcome and thank you :oops:. I get much comfort and perspective from reading your posts as well as others, too.

I never expected to take this journey. Kinda resigned myself to 'singledom' after being treated badly a long time ago. I was strong and independent, going on my merry way. Then here comes this amazing human being in to my life a couple years ago and bang!

From day one this man has treated me with nothing but respect, care, kindness, generosity and honesty. He just happens to suffer with PTSD. He's such a sweet gentle soul with a slightly rough/tough persona and I'm here with all of you choosing to stay and learn how to support and understand him as well help myself.

Life as we all know is short. The latest terror attack here in London reminded me of that. I would close my eyes happily forever even if I only got to spend snippets of happy times with my loved one's including my SO. I prefer a few precious incredible months out of the year than a lifetime if misery with someone who thinks I'm worth nothing.

"Sorry, did I just go off on a rant...?":eek::tdown::rolleyes: