General Hubby Lost 2 Hours Last Night.

[amethist]

This weekend we had our 6 year old granddaughter to stay, it went well for all of us. Hubby loved every minute and she enjoyed her self too.

Yesterday he was tired and had the expected wobble, but last night it hit him harder than is has before.

Around 6.30 he told me he did not feel too good, and wanted to take his medication early, but hung on for another hour. After he took them, he insisted on watching a program on TV at 8pm, though I had suggested he watch the repeat later in the week, and go to bed instead, as I could see he was not really in the here and now.

At 9pm, he said he was not tired and wanted to watch something else, though could not decide on what. I made him a mug of tea, and this is when it really showed he was not here.

By 9.30 he was drifting badly, so I insisted he got to bed with some oil and shut down completely. he just looked at me and said, "Your right, I will watch the repeat instead". He had no memory of watching the program at 8pm at all. So rather than upset him by telling him he had already watched it, I just helped him upstairs, put some oil on him, and left him to sleep.

This morning he is back into reality, but upset at loosing so much time last night, his back aches from the tension, and he is a bit ratty with himself. Not towards me at all, and he did worry this morning that he had been disrespectful to me last night. It took me ages to reassure him that he had been fine with me, and no one else would have know he was as he was, because he was talking sense as such. I knew what was wrong because I have seen it so many times before, and knew exactly what to do.

So today, rest and peace and quiet, while he gets his self back together again.

 

[OKRADLAK]

You are the best care giver, Am. There are so many on here. What you do is making such a difference in your H's life. You deserve a medal. I hope you both have a good day today!:)

 

[Toria]

I know that you must be worried about him Amethist, but - looking in from the outside - there are a lot of positives in your post. He was worried about you too and to me that speaks volumes :inlove:

I read the link you posted on Disassociation yesterday and have started to notice when Husband drifts. Thank you

 

[Srain]

I realize that my Hunny will "go with it" when I do this and it is not until after does he tell me that I have done something like this if it happens towards the end of a day.

I can see how much it takes from your post to be so reassuring, loving, and kind. I panic as well. I worry and dread I have been disrespectful in that state. I appreciate your posting. I hope you don't mind my looking on, it is a keen reminder the work and love that goes into being a Supporter.You surely possess all that and more.

hugs,
Peace,
Rain

 

[intothelight]

Amethist,

Loosing time is scary, especially when you realize that it can be any kind of stress, good or bad, that can cause an overload. You did a great job of being aware of the situation and handling the dynamics associated with it.

Your H is blessed to have you in many ways.

Deb

 

[ISupportHer]

It's been a while since I witnessed something like this at my house, thankfully. It sounds like you did the reight thing, even when inside your head you may have been screaming.

This is a good example where OUR response as supporters can go a long way.

ISH

 

[Sunshine71]

Dear Amethist and all

Its been month since I was on the forum.

You are an inspiration Amethist. Thanks for sharing.

My husband keep getting confused and not knowing who I am or his son. He is down again today.

Sending you love

Sunshine x