Hurtful words people say

[Esterio]

In the last week I have had 2 things physically chase me off line. I am not a bigot or a racist. I am on 2 sites that cater to people that have suffered some stuff that will never leave us alone again. I don't think we need to be hit with it here where we come for support,and to share with others who can be sensitive to are needs. Not to come out with hurtful terms and say it was meant a joke.
I wonder how much of a joke it was to that little boy that had to be the first one out of school running as fast as he could so his so called peer's behind him yelling you better run Faggot if we get you your dead meat. Some words hurt people and should never be used
There have been others I don't know if this is an appropriate thread. I am wondering what terms or words people say that hurt you and why you think in 2017 that people think it is ok to use the word Faggot in any form"

Thanks for reading this thread
Peace be safe
Moderators if you think there is a more appropriate forum for this thread please advise and help me move it

 

[Just_Dan]

Hey man'
Sorry to hear you had that happen here.
And you're absolutely right!
This place should be a safe place to visit. The last thing you or any of us need to hear is more "jokes"
I hope one bad Apple doesn't ruin it here for you.
Just another suffer tired of not find true support from those that should know better.

Dan

 

[Deleted member 44394]

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Here's an alternative, and actually the original meaning of that word; just incase you're interested in learning something new... If you didn't already know, of course. Not all things are bad and maybe learning to overcome your sensitivity would help you in some regards. Just saying, choosing to be overly sensitive never really helped anyone.

 

[Deleted member 37474]

I hate mean words too. Honestly, I think words hurt more than physical violence.
I especially can't seem to get over words that were said to me by my high school x-boyfriend, college rapist, roommate of said rapist and a woman I worked with that threatened me. Now, if these words are implied or said to me it is triggering. It causes me to lose trust in really close friends or even fear them.
I also think that it is easy on a site like this to get misunderstood with the language translations and people should bring it up if someone says something offensive, that way if there is a misunderstanding it can be sorted out.

 

[joeylittle]

Not all things are bad and maybe learning to overcome your sensitivity would help you in some regards. Just saying, choosing to be overly sensitive never really helped anyone.

Sensitivity isn't always a choice, for people who have PTSD. Inability to regulate emotional responses to triggers is...a symptom.

You could as easily choose to not be put out and defensive, when someone else has hurt feelings.

In other words - we all have our challenges. And we all have different tolerance points, and those can shift day to day.

Some words hurt people and should never be used

Conduct yourself how you'd like, and use the ignore function to help manage the input you are getting from others. All words can be hurtful in various combinations. In this case, I saw the chat convo, and @Erics did nothing untoward; he referred to a bundle of sticks (specifically) using an archaic term.

And @Erics, I find it hard to believe that you don't know how difficult that word can be for some people, seeing as you referred to your use of it as a pun.

This thread is being locked now; threads aren't the place for member-to-member conflicts to be worked out. Questions, open a help ticket. There's probably a good thread to be had in discussing language, meaning, and what kinds of words we find challenging and why. ANyone is free to open a thread on that.