I guess I am just a bit hurt for my daughter and need to vent.
My daughter's father moved to NY, 4 hours away. He met a woman in April (or May?) and they recently got married. They have moved in with her parents in NY.
We had a sit down a few weeks ago where my s/o and I met his wife. The sit down was an attempt to not have to go back to court and to discuss a change in his visitation schedule starting on Nov 11th, as a 30 day notice would be appropriate as he has a habit of moving and not telling me.
We agreed Mini Me (MM) would see him every other weekend and drop the Tuesday visitation.
He would not be able to pick her up until 730 at night on Fridays, them not getting back to NY until 1130 at night, not okay for a 12 year old. I would like him to pick her up Saturday mornings, he isn't agreeable. He wants his wife to pick MM up because she could get her earlier.
I don't know this woman, she's never driven with MM in the car before, but MM needs to see her father and MM gets on well with his wife. That is what matters.
Still, I have told them, that because he has a history of being dishonest with woman having licenses, that if she showed me she had a license, registration, and insurance, that I would be more agreeable to her picking MM up.
(note: this is a big deal as court order says when MM is with her father, he must be with her at all times due to irresponsibility in the past)
They are refusing to answer me, which is why we are going to go to court to have a judge decide what is best. I think that makes the most sense to put it in the hands of the judge to make these decisions.
Okay...so he texted at 330, (which is a half hour before he is due to pick her up today), that "because of his new job and as per our conversation, he won't be picking up MM".
(again, this wasn't supposed to take effect until the 11th. Rearranging conversation is just his manipulation, always trying to assert control).
I had to tell MM the schedule is starting early, and I am just so hurt for MM that he has chosen this woman and her children over MM.
Since April, MM is constantly getting cancelled on at the last minute. It is hurtful to her, as their relationship is already very strained.
Nothing will change here in our home, she has me, and she has my s/o whom she thinks of (in her words) as her "step daddy". We will still play games, watch movies, art together, cook together, dance, sing and express love.
It's just really hard to hide the hurt right now. Sorry this is so long :/
My daughter's father moved to NY, 4 hours away. He met a woman in April (or May?) and they recently got married. They have moved in with her parents in NY.
We had a sit down a few weeks ago where my s/o and I met his wife. The sit down was an attempt to not have to go back to court and to discuss a change in his visitation schedule starting on Nov 11th, as a 30 day notice would be appropriate as he has a habit of moving and not telling me.
We agreed Mini Me (MM) would see him every other weekend and drop the Tuesday visitation.
He would not be able to pick her up until 730 at night on Fridays, them not getting back to NY until 1130 at night, not okay for a 12 year old. I would like him to pick her up Saturday mornings, he isn't agreeable. He wants his wife to pick MM up because she could get her earlier.
I don't know this woman, she's never driven with MM in the car before, but MM needs to see her father and MM gets on well with his wife. That is what matters.
Still, I have told them, that because he has a history of being dishonest with woman having licenses, that if she showed me she had a license, registration, and insurance, that I would be more agreeable to her picking MM up.
(note: this is a big deal as court order says when MM is with her father, he must be with her at all times due to irresponsibility in the past)
They are refusing to answer me, which is why we are going to go to court to have a judge decide what is best. I think that makes the most sense to put it in the hands of the judge to make these decisions.
Okay...so he texted at 330, (which is a half hour before he is due to pick her up today), that "because of his new job and as per our conversation, he won't be picking up MM".
(again, this wasn't supposed to take effect until the 11th. Rearranging conversation is just his manipulation, always trying to assert control).
I had to tell MM the schedule is starting early, and I am just so hurt for MM that he has chosen this woman and her children over MM.
Since April, MM is constantly getting cancelled on at the last minute. It is hurtful to her, as their relationship is already very strained.
Nothing will change here in our home, she has me, and she has my s/o whom she thinks of (in her words) as her "step daddy". We will still play games, watch movies, art together, cook together, dance, sing and express love.
It's just really hard to hide the hurt right now. Sorry this is so long :/
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