Husbands and suicide threats

[Gs172003]

If I'm not mistaken people who commit suicide don't tell anyone about it. They don't want anyone to sto...

Thank you

 

[Sideways]

people who commit suicide don't tell anyone about it.

Statistically, people who suicide have usually raised the issue with someone beforehand. It’s why for Ts, protocol is to take any suicide talk seriously.

 

[reallydown]

Haven't had a chance to read the whole thread but generally, this is a tactic abusers use in order to get what they want.

 

[Gs172003]

My husband and I talked about this tonight and he says he was serious. He described the scenario he was going to do it with and how he had it set up. He said he felt so desperate and so frustrated he just couldn't do it anymore. So let that be a lesson...No matter how somebody says or doesn't say how they are going to do "it"..Take it seriously.

 

[littleoc]

My husband and I talked about this tonight and he says he was serious. He described the scenario he was...

I hope you're both well and get what you need

 

[Sideways]

I’m so sorry you’re confronted with this. It obviously is something he’s spent quite a bit of time thinking about, which means that probably his mood isn’t going to miraculously recover overnight. That’s a lot to deal with, so please make time for self-care.

 

[Gs172003]

Thanks you all.

 

[DharmaGirl]

any suicide threat is to simply call the police.

Excellent advice.

 

[Ahhlia]

Hi all...
I am talking from experience... my late husband, David, shot himself in front of me.
This is after months of threats. He also tried to kill us both, with one time his
friend seen us in the window and he called the police (he was released on bail 2 days later
it was two months later he grabbed my arm dragging me to the back of the house
said he wanted to show me something.

He would make jokes for month. A few weeks before he died he said that Junior Seau
stole his idea. Yes, he would say things that were manipulative by saying if I leave he
will disappear where he will never be found. That he was going to walk into the ocean
and not come out. Another time he locked the bathroom,, I unlocked it when he was downstairs
to find he had an arsenal of guns and bullets.

David was an alcoholic who was covering a mass amount of guilt from years prior to meeting me.
I will not disclose what he was hiding because it disgust me to think about it. The more he drank
the more he was emotionally, verbally and mentally abusive. Then he would feel sorry the next
day. Usually happened during a full moon. The next time he would be worse and worse, And
again he would say it was not my fault. and the jokes of suicide.

It is hard to tell when they are serious or just controlling. I warn to be careful. Maybe next time he
makes the threat, call the crisis line and hand him the phone and leave the room.

 

[Gs172003]

Hi all...
I am talking from experience... my late husband, David, shot himself in front of me.
This is a...

When he made the threat I wasn't there which made it that much harder. I had left to go for a hike. He says he didn't do it because nobody knew where I was and I refused to tell him where I went. I kept him on the phone and calmed him down. That's the last time he did that that I'm aware of.

I'm sorry for what you went through. That's awful.

 

[StarChild]

So let that be a lesson...

@Zoogal, I wondered quite a bit; Is this rather a reminder to yourself, or who are you referring to, by this statement of yours? Your answer would be appreciated. :tup:

 

[Gs172003]

@Zoogal, I wondered quite a bit; Is this rather a reminder to yourself, or who ar...

It's just a general statement really to the world I guess.