Orangesfrompears
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My ex, is a woman (28) who is a womanizer. History of C/A and neglect, clear pattern in my opinion, of constant numbing through activities and always onto the next woman. There are casulties along the way. I can name 7 just this year. She knows herself enough to know shortly after it begins, her feelings will turn off. Unfortunately she also has a diminished sense of empathy, and often justifies the women and the behavior saying they had a good time (which they will have done, essentially they are interacting with a fantasy because she isn't really there if you know what I mean). But then she goes off them and isn't able to behave well in finishing it, usually she will go into someone else and hope they get the message.
I want to tell her to stop, tell her she is spending her hurt on hurting people and it's time to start caring and taking responsibility. Partly my motivation is that I am one of the people she has hurt. The other part of the drama is that she chose to hook up with someone in my home (we still live together in a community). Following this last straw (at the time I was telling her how poor mental health was and how in love with her and hurting I was) I left and asked her to leave (I have lived there 9 years and she one). She has said she won't move. I'm still repairing myself to be able to go back, and I have been away five weeks.
I'm looking for advice, all comments welcome.
I want to tell her to stop, tell her she is spending her hurt on hurting people and it's time to start caring and taking responsibility. Partly my motivation is that I am one of the people she has hurt. The other part of the drama is that she chose to hook up with someone in my home (we still live together in a community). Following this last straw (at the time I was telling her how poor mental health was and how in love with her and hurting I was) I left and asked her to leave (I have lived there 9 years and she one). She has said she won't move. I'm still repairing myself to be able to go back, and I have been away five weeks.
I'm looking for advice, all comments welcome.