Hypnosis

[StarChild]

I'm a failure at therapy though so the therapist said I need a break

Now you've got me curious... Were this your therapist's exact words that "you're a failure at therapy so therefore you need to take a break." If this were not her words, could you please write as accurate as possible, what she exactly told you (not to what kind of conclusion you came by what she told you?)

 

[Lovealways]

Ok so she suggested hypnosis. She set up a meeting w her boss (who would be performing the hypnosis) at our last session. Upon his arrival I for super anxious and started panicking... Panicked through his entire 15 min. Consult and left the appointment. The next day I emailed her stating I decided against the hypnosis and asked if there was any other way and she didn't respond. She text me on Sunday asking if I was gonna come to Mondays appt or if I wanted to take a break. She then said I think u need a break. I said ok. That's where we r right now

 

[StarChild]

w her boss (who would be performing the hypnosis) at our last session.

Thank you, for your detailed answer. I do really appreciate it. Look, I don't ask you for nosy reasons, but to get a deeper understanding for your situation. I underwent clinical hypnosis several times, and learned its effects, its purpose and how it affects you. I'd be interested in what she told you to expect or to get out of such a session (benefits)? And what where the preparations for the hypnosis session? Have you already worked with her boss before?

 

[Lovealways]

Never! It's the first time we met. I have heard great things about hypnosis, however, the thought of being In a room with a male who is in control again makes me freak out thinking about it!!! She said she would sit in the sessions w me but I just can't

 

[StarChild]

I have heard great things about hypnosis,

May I ask you again, what she told you about the hypnotherapy? What did they want to achieve with it = its exact purpose for you? It would be important (for you) to understand what goal you / her wanted to achieve through hypnotherapy... Oh, and what did they explain about how and what exactly hypnosis is and would work?

 

[Lovealways]

I have pretty bad nightmares and sleep issues so that was the basis. I wish I didn't get freaked out by everything! I just want this to erase this mistake I made!!!

 

[greenleaf]

@Lovealways -- I don't know this therapist, but I have to say I'm quite angry at your T at the moment...

I would like to suggest the possibility that it is not you who is failing at therapy, but the T who has some problems.. they both need to learn more about trauma treatment, and perhaps more importantly, somehow acquire basic professional ethics (which unfortunately many health care people lack, but not all)... f they cannot succeed at treating a particular person, they should not put the blame on the person... if a person refuses to work on their problems and avoids therapy, that's one thing -- but not the case here!

I'm more ok with a T saying that treatments for a condition are limited or still being developed, rather than saying someone failed; doctors should tell people when "they don't know", not blame the patient, too. :mad:

There are many different treatments for trauma now, the field is really improving (and there is now MRI evidence showing changes in brain function for different subtypes of ptsd and such); some of us here have found much better-trained good Ts quite recently, compared with how helpful the best Ts could be for us 15 years ago. The trauma treatment techniques are unfortunately not known (or respected) by every T out there now though... can you specifically try a "trauma therapist"? If this one claims to be, please try another one!!! People here can suggest different treatment types; no T can be trained in all of them, they are not deities :meh: (so a T should always try for referrals to a colleague who might be helpful if you still have problems but therapy with them is not working well.)

You could try looking more, and you can talk to us here about how it's going... :)

 

[shimmerz]

Upon his arrival I for super anxious and started panicking...

This means you are not ready.... through no fault of your own

Panicked through his entire 15 min.

This means you are not ready....through no fault of your own

The next day I emailed her stating I decided against the hypnosis

Her lack of response to this imho is irresponsible. I think this therapist is in too deep and is not properly fit to help you with your issues..... through no fault of your own. She needs to own up to that and refer you to someone who can help you properly. She is not realizing (or admitting)that she is not able to help you ..... through no fault of your own.

She then said I think u need a break.

The fact that she and her boss would even suggest cutting you lose after leaving you in such a state is abhorrent to me. Through no fault of your own.

I'm a failure at therapy though so the therapist said I need a break

The fact that they would allow you to believe this in ANY way shape or form as well is abhorrent to me.

I think you need a therapist who actually understands that trauma is insanely difficult to process. That it takes time .... and that forgetting everything is NOT the way to heal. These two sound like the two stooges. You deserve better. And the first thing on the list with a decent therapist should maybe be to re-establish that you are NOT a failure at therapy. These types make me so angry.

Sorry. Rant over.

 

[Tom S. in Tn.]

At the risk of butting in, I concur with each reply here Love Always.
Are you bound by insurance or sliding scale self pay perhaps? Do you have access to an MD who might prescribe a sedative to help you with the first problem: anxiety?
I wish you could go this route and find a NEW therapist on another side of town.
Hope I helped instead of butting in; Tom S. in Tn.

 

[Lovealways]

Please don't bash the therapists. They r only trying to help. They are very nice people. Thank you for all the help and guidance so far. I really appreciate everything.

 

[shimmerz]

It isn't about whether they are trying to help or not. It is about whether they are effective in helping or not.

I would much prefer to speak about them that way than to hear you bashing yourself. Please consider this....

 

[Lovealways]

I am very hard on myself and that's something I also need to work on... I will take your opinions into consideration... Thanks for being here