My mom has never, in my life, called me anything but what she named me. No nicknames, pet names, not even my married name. She’s also gotten grumpy at most of the ones she’s been aware of (I NEVER had a daughter named blah blah blah) despite the fact that SHE goes by her married name, and we’re a military family, so it’s not like call-signs are something foreign. Still, someone from my unit would call for me at my parents home, whilst on Leave, and I’d know the phone was for me because you’d hear her voice “I NEVER had a daughter named blah blah blah,” // “I’ve got it, Mom! You can hang up, now!” // “Your friends need to know the importance of phone etiquette.” // (What am I? 12?) “MOM! Hang. Up. The. Phone.” // “It’s COMMON COURTESY, and... // “FFS. Moose? I’ll call you back in 5. Stop laughing. It’s not that funny. // “I bet HIS MOTHER didn’t name him Moose!” // “No, Ma’am, she surely did not. // MOM!!!Here I am feeling guilty towards my Mum for changing it despite the fact she’s not been in my life for years other than recently we text now and again, just a hello, how are you?
Thank you. I went for Luna-Lily.I checked in here because I hoped you were taking suggestions for a new name.
Lilly and Luna are both great names.
I have always had a thing for women with unique names or nicknames, if for no other reason than it made the conversation easier to start. And if they looked bored repeating it, I knew it wasn't going anywhere early and humanely.
Frank Zappa could name people and pets. He wrote about it. But his wife Gale saved Moon Unit Zappa from being "Motorhead". He wasn't as good as he thought he was.
Did I just hear you being called Motorhead? Whats that all about?
Thank you so much for your comment.Wow! Congratulations on naming yourself! It’s very empowering and you deserve to have and enjoy all of your power.
I changed my first and second names also, 12 yrs ago. My parents deliberately chose my birth names to mock me. For real. They wanted a boy, and I am not one, so they took the name of a celebrity sex-pot of their time for my middle name, and used the version of a powerful biblical female’s name that god supposedly changed in order to subdue her and make her obey her husband.
Interestingly, that name had the same effect on me even outside my family from others. I changed my name after answering a then-fellow artist that I don’t sign my first names on my work because of this, and he told me that he is a Kabbalist (I didn’t know) and that I was correct in my observations of what that name does to a person.
He shared that he had changed his name several times in his life in order to accomplish certain goals and purposes successfully. So I changed mine, happily. I also didn’t even hear my birth name when people called me; it was as if I were completely deaf to it and I’d tried for yrs to change that reaction to no avail. But that’s really beside the point for me, even though I can see that being “something to work on.” I just stopped caring because that name had nothing good in it at all for me.
He warned me about the pitfalls of the name I chose, but I chose it to balance out my previous life experiences and I’m still really happy with it. He understood, though he urged me to choose a more “balanced” name. But he also didn’t know how imbalanced my life had been and how much I needed to create a balance.
I know this all sounds very woo, but I will say that in the process of changing my name, and for yrs afterward, I investigated the Kabbalist naming practices and perspectives and found it to be at least plausible.
I thought of all the “names” parents give to their children such as “worthless,” “stupid,” etc..., and saw that these names indeed influence the person sometimes for a lifetime. Why wouldn’t the standard acceptable “given” names be that way? I know people who named their child “Maya,” and “Colden.” If these weren’t considered normal, they could be used as insults too.
Luna-Lily is lovely as a warm summer evening with a cool breeze (which I love) :)