I called myself a survivor today

[419can.dance]

I have been in therapy for a little over a year. The one thing that I’ve been scared of is the label survivor. I have avoided it, I have written it and crossed it out. But never have I been able to say I am a survivor. Today in therapy we dug a little and get my past and she asked me what I thought of myself after that. What what I call a close friend of mine that went through the chaos that I have endured? I am a survivor of childhood sexual abuse. I survived I am thriving I am a survivor.

 

[somerandomguy]

Nice work!!! ?

 

[EveHarrington]

Congrats!! ?

 

[419can.dance]

I appreciate the congratulations. Not to say I’m not sitting here still crying over the matter. I want to be a survivor but I don’t want the label survivor. Does that make any sense?

 

[somerandomguy]

I want to be a survivor but I don’t want the label survivor.

Sure, it makes sense. I wish I didn't have my trauma at all. I wish I didn't have to label myself with anything prefaced with "trauma" at all. Trauma victim. Trauma survivor.

You can call yourself anything you want. You don't have to accept any labels at all if you don't want to. But as much as we wish it would, the trauma isn't just going to disappear because we don't call ourselves something.

 

[EveHarrington]

I want to be a survivor but I don’t want the label survivor. Does that make any sense?

Yes, it makes total sense.

Is a label important to you? The only labels I have a problem with are the ones that aren’t true. If it’s an accurate label, I’m usually like “eh, ok” or feel some sort of relief.

 

[419can.dance]

Yes, it makes total sense.

Is a label important to you? The only labels I have a problem with are the ones that aren’t true. If it’s an accurate label, I’m usually like “eh, ok” or feel some sort of relief.

My therapist has been working with me for over a year just to use the term Survivor she said I deserve to be labeled as survivor

 

[Freida]

My therapist has been working with me for over a year just to use the term Survivor she said I deserve to be labeled as survivor

Mine pounded her head on her keyboard for years trying to get me to understand the word VICTIM (lol always in capital letters) meant someone who deserved help, not someone who was a pathetic loser.

So yes - kudos!!! A survivor is someone who overcame huge odds and lived. That's you :hug:

 

[KimmyO]

You are a thriving survivor, and that is a great accomplishment and something to be happy for! =) Keep on thriving! <3

 

[KimmyO]

You are a survivor, and yet you are even more: I love this song and thought of you. =) <3
You're an overcomer
Stay in the fight ‘til the final round
You're not going under
‘Cause G is holding you right now
You might be down for a moment
Feeling like it's hopeless
That's when He reminds You
That you're an overcomer
You're an overcomer