I Decided It Was Time

[Seren]

My name is Seren. I am Tex's Fiance. I decided that it was time I join this forum as a supporter. We seem to be getting into a lot of arguments lately and I am tired of it. I think that the best way to get him to understand me more and for me to understand him more is this forum. We have a hard time communicating without it turning into a yelling match for him and me yelling and crying. Of course being 8 months pregnant doesn't help matters either. He has gotten close to a lot a people on here and I feel like we disconnecting rather than growing closer. I try not to take it personal but I am a very emotional and affectionate person and so I do get upset. I am also a jealous and somewhat insecure person even though I never doubt his love for me. Our relationship is never going to be exactly as I want it to be, although I am very deeply and completely in love with him and I know he feels the same about me, there are a few things about him that I do not like even though I accept them. I know I am not perfect so I know there are things he does not like about me but he accepts anyways. I just wish that there was someway we could understand each other more so that we can actually sit down and talk things out and actually resolve an issue rather than yell and one of us walk out. He also thinks that I have PTSD, not from being in the military but from my past marriage and being abused. I have a hard time sitting here for very long so I will get on as much as I can, I am excited to meet some new friends on here.

 

[Redheaded Stranger]

Well, hiya Seren!! Welcome. We are so glad you are here!!

I guess you've heard about us and what we do here. Hope you are prepared for lots of learning and support and tears and laughter. This place has been a lifesaver for me and I hope it is as helpful for you.

Congratulations on your pregnancy. I cannot imagine how your hormones are making you feel in addition to everything else.

Hang in here and please do come here often. There are so many great threads already here and I hope you get a chance to read them

So welcome Seren!

Red

 

[nomedic1]

Welcome Seren hope we can help nice to have you here

 

[Steph_F]

Hey Seren! Welcome! I know what you mean about being happy and in love with someone yet still left somewhat wanting...sometimes I get very angry and sad that while I support my guy 100%, I know that there are times when I'm going to have to look for support for myself in other places because he will be unable to be there for me in the way I need him the most. It pisses me off and it's incredibly unfair, but then I remember how and why he got PTSD -from serving MY country, protecting ME and MY family and future. While I know I don't deserve his anger, numbness, his ignoring me, I also know he doesn't deserve PTSD, none of our Vets do. Still, it sucks!

I hope you find the support you are looking for here, we have heard alot about you, what a sweetheart you are and how you have changed the life of one Warrior, who has helped countless others with his wisdom...Tex's strength comes from within- true, but you are the one that makes him never give up!

Welcome!

 

[Jimmy1]

Hey Seren, how is the boy???

Yes, a few of us here have been through ups and downs with Tex. I remember when he first joined and was all over the place.

Its hard enough you living with and taking on a man with PTSD, let alone getting pregnant and surviving through the relationship. I think they need to give you both a medal. Him one for putting up with a pregnant emotional woman while having PTSD and you a medal for putting up with him while you are pregnant.
I really do take my hat off and commend you for supporting your veteran. Congrats.

Just remember, at the moment it was just Veterans Day. I was screwed up for a couple of weeks prior and a couple after. Also remember, he is trying to find the right medication. They are both challenging times.

So Seren, just hang in there. He will get back on his feet again.
Tell him he is missed around here and needs to say hello.

Jimmy

 

[wife of]

Hey hunny,about time too.....I understand and identify completely with what you say about how it is difficult to watch your darling man be able to communicate with others,it realy makes me feel excluded sometimes too,I think most humans harbour a little amount of insecurity,now matter how rock solid thier relationship,you'd have to be a right hard asses B***h not to,and I don't believe in perfect relationships ,of any kind,to be solid then relationships have to be about compromise and trust,if you have those,then your sorted,if you dont have those but are willing to work towards them,then yet again you are sorted, Looking forward to chatting with you,chin up,and by the way,since I sometimes suffer from foot in mouth syndrome...dont hesitate to message me if anything I say seems too much!! Sue.

 

[Seren]

Thank all of you for your support. And Jimmy, Tex said to go have a piss, he is the only sane one here! I am so emotional right now so my head is a little clouded, hopefully I will be somewhat normal again in a few weeks. Thank you for that last paragraph Steph, just reading that from someone else made a difference. He has said similiar things to me but when someone is capable of showing much sympathy it doesn't always stick. So thank you it helps to hear that from someone else. I would love to type more but it is really hard on my back to sit at the computer for more than a few minutes at a time.

 

[Steph_F]

You are welcome hon! :) make sure you are taking care of you, ok? Pregnancy is awesome...and miserable at the same time! You owe it to yourself right now to do everything you can to relax and let your precious lil bun in the oven hear happy pleasant voices from the outside world. PTSD is so rotten, but I think it can be worked on and managed. Your job as Tex's number one is to be patient, tolerant, compassionate and understanding. His job as YOUR number one is give you the same. Pregnancy and PTSD are kinda similar in how they mess with your head! Better days will come, hang in there! We are here for you both!

 

[The Hermit King]

Welcome.

 

[willis williams]

Welcome Seren! Oh Jimmy I slacked off on the main forum just cause my head ain't in the right place right now to be giving any advice right now. But I'll be back just need to find the time that is right to get my meds right. A lot on my plate right now can't find the right time for me.

 

[Jimmy1]

Sorry Tex, but your head ain't been in the right place since I have known you. Its great that you can identify that you don't need to be giving advice as you are not well. It only took me a couple of days, and some days I should not either, but its good to lurk around.

Keep your head down and chin up mate.

Jimmy

 

[brodes]

Welcome Seren , good to have you on board. Matt