I feel like my issues are too complex to recover from

[Sideways]

I'm baffled by how dense you are.

Haha, that’s odd. Because me? I’m just baffled!

Honestly, you don’t have ptsd. People qho have been through war and shit? They develop ptsd. It doesn’t require some kind of literary analysis of Criteria A to understand what is, or isn’t, trauma that can cause ptsd. We aren’t interpreting Shakespeare, it’s not something you can ‘metaphorically argue’.

You don’t have ptsd. You’ve found enlightenment at the ripe old age of 21 through mushrooms and a 2 week relationship.

Your mother left when you were 4. That sux. But it doesn’t cause ptsd. You don’t have ptsd. Comparing your situation to what people here have been through? Is arrogant and offensive.

One thing I do know for absolute certain? My self esteem will survive you telling me you think I’m dense.

 

[Hojay]

@jameson
I think what people are getting at here is that there’s a difference between traumatic events shaping your psyche and PTSD. I’ve had some awful stuff happen to me—yes enough to land anyone in therapy for a good long while. But I don’t have PTSD. My SO, on the other hand, has PTSD from CSA, and the difference between our experience is glaring. It’s not about comparing the severity of trauma—comparing pain is just plain silly—but the difference is important.

Everyone suffering or disordered has a reason why. From NPDs to BPDs to GADs. Not having PTSD doesn’t make those reasons any prettier. But in cases not involving PTSD, looking at those reasons only helps to a point. In fact, overly focusing on them might make one think one has PTSD, because you continuously force yourself to get stuck in what happened, rather than looking at yourself.

What my traumatic experience left me with was GAD, major depression, and enough cognitive distortion to fuel the current American administration. But that, to the largest extent, was one me, not what happened to me, which is only one of the difference between my experience and PTSD.

 

[Neverthesame]

If this is depression and anxiety then PTSD is a meaningless concept

I really tried to give you the benefit of the doubt, but this attitude of "if it doesn't affect me it's stupid" you seem to delight in broadcasting at every opportunity is just selfish and rude.

I'm not sure whether to laugh or bang my head on the table with this revelation of a fortnight fling, becoming your magic bullet of healthfulness because the delirium caused by ingesting a poisonous mushroom told you so? Wow.

All I can think to say now is. If this is how you treat everyone around you in real life, I'd think you should look into examining why you draw such a negative reaction from people. Especially considering you are basing your "recovery" on a romantic interaction with a woman to fill the void left by your mother. Which sounds alot like Oedipus syndrome. Learning how to build and maintain a relationship, is going to be vital for your "therapy".
Based on the way you interact with people here, I'm surprised the relationship lasted two weeks.

 

[lostforgottensoul]

I'm baffled by how dense you are.

You don't get help by attacking those spending their time trying to help you. You have 21 pages. TWENTY ONE PAGES of people spending time giving you time trying to help you and you attack people? Wow! I personally am thankful for any help and posts trying to help me. Even if they do not agree with me. I take in opposing views and consider their perspective. I don't call them dense.

 

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I've stopped watching this thread as of today.

 

[Fiadh]

@jameson I'm even more baffled by how dense you are.

I think this is an attention thing, wind people up, agree, wind them up, agree, bit of research, wind up, agree, come across as reasonable and then wind up again. It's like reading a soap opera.

The comments you have made about physical disability, to me I find offensive- but hey it's your opinion. People try there bloody hardest everyday with both physical and mental health issues to live a quality of life, to dismiss that any kind of effort need go into that to me shows that perhaps you don't know what it is like.

Why don't you get a diary like suggested- that way you can be as opinionated and hopefully find your one true love that will fix it all for you.

 

[joeylittle]

OK, @jameson. This site isn't right for you.

I can't disagree with you more about almost everything you say. I think trying to change day-to-day habits is not relevant to "trying", when the important change takes place your habits change naturally.

This, as I said before, is a belief. It's not a fact. You have a hypothesis, and you have one learned experience to support it. 50 years (or so) of science, and the lived experiences of many people on this board, contradict your hypothesis.

No-one has any ego in what they are offering you. I think a lot of people see aspects of themselves in you, and they've tried to reach out. This really isn't about winning an argument. It's only about trying to help.

I haven't conceptualized trauma that doesn't exist, you can maybe argue that it's technically traumatic according to the DSM, but any rational person should understand how genuinely and severely traumatic it is to be mistreated and then abandoned by your mother at a very young age.

Yes, that could be a life-f*cker-upper. It could screw up your attachment abilities, affect your core belief system. It could do a whole lot of other things. When we say "traumatic", it is not meant as the synonym to "really f*cking bad". It's a medical term, with a medical definition. That definition is most certainly in flux, but for a lot of reasons, it's not so malleable that every bad thing - every really, really bad thing - leads to PTSD as the answer.

It's also pretty straight forward to see how having that kind of early experience can cause a snowball effect throughout your life.

Yes, it could. No-one is disputing that.

If this is depression and anxiety then PTSD is a meaningless concept. There is a really obvious void with a really obvious cause that was really obviously confirmed when it was filled in an unhealthy way.

And....no. You are seeing one single tree, and missing the entire forest.

I figured this out over years of therapy and a lifetime of struggle.

Here's where you are trolling - even if it's unintentional, you're just winding people up.

Singing more, dancing more, being overtly positive, yeah that's dopamine spike.

Yes....it actually is.

I don't want you to believe you're being banned because you were disagreed with. That's not at all what it is. You are being banned because you've demonstrated an absolute unwillingness to engage in your side of peer-to-peer support. There are other people on this board, besides you. A lot of them have tried to help. And, a lot of them have threads all over the place, looking for what you are looking for. You have made it clear, you're not interested in what this place is, and it's just not good for the community to let you continue.