General I Fell Down And Can't Get Up..

[dayglo]

Literally. Of course, have not been sleeping well.

Woke up with a *huge* leg cramp. Got out of bed too fast. Got dizzy and fell down. Hit my head.

Wife found me lying there unresponsive for about 30 seconds. She called the ER. I "woke up" to all of the yelling and screaming and general confusion (even though it is just my wife, my son & I it seemed like 10 people).

I was able to stand afterwards and made everybody stay quiet. I went with the Ambulance without a fight (walked into the ambulance) since I know I lost consciousness and head injuries are no laughing matter.

They took all sorts of blood, a chest x-ray, and EKG, which came back normal. No headache. The Dr said he does not think a CT-Scan was necessary but if there are any changes in my salutation to go back immediately. (I remember what happened to Natasha Richardson so there's no argument there).

Top of my head is sore, my right leg is very sore (probably when I fell). And for some reason the bottom of my foot is *very* *very* sore (that one I don't understand).

My wife's reaction worse than my physical pain (To Be Continued...)

 

[dayglo]

My wife's reaction is 100 times worse than my actual injury. She was freaked out at home. In the hospital she was bothering the nurses and doctors. She called her brother at 5:00 am (why, I don't know). Yelling at my son. She got dizzy a few times and I thought *she* would faint.

When we got home she want into controlling, "gestapo" mode. (Wow I wish I could do that to her when she gets out of control). She was ready to call every single neighbor and friend (most avoid her due to her past issues).

Finally I calmed her down and I tried to take a nap. She stopped in every five minutes to see how I was doing and of course would wake me up (I guess I can't complain too much about that).

She sees that I am having trouble walking because my foot is sore (if it continues I will have it check out tomorrow).

She asked me if she could post this to facebook and I specifically said NO. (I did not want my mom, who is in her 80's, to see the post or have a relative call her and ask her what is up).

Anyway, I get up from my nap and lo-and-behold she DID post on her wall. I replied stating that "I'm OK but sore". She said she want to erase my post. And when I asked her to delete her post, she said "No, it's my wall and you can't control me". I again reminded her that it is about *me* but she refuses to take it down.

So now she's angry at me as well. A nice start to the weekend.

Oh, and I forgot to mention that I had an interview today which of course had to be canceled :(

 

[The Albatross]

Hmmm. I think she needs some stress management.

 

[NIKI]

Your wife should honor your request to remove it from her wall. She just should because you asked her to. Period.

 

[Deleted member 1860]

Gotta love Facebook and others posting statuses about you....specifically when you ask them not to!

I hope you're feeling better!

 

[Bilby]

That sounds so frustrating and annoying. Some people seem to feel this need to turn whatever happens, into something about themselves, when in actual fact, it's nothing of the sort.

She should have respected your request to not put it on Facebook - she asked, you said no, and she did it anyway?!

I hope you're feeling better soon, and I'm really sorry to hear about the job interview :(

 

[dayglo]

She doesn't have many friends around here (they keep a distance due to her PTSD) so her "friends" are on facebook.

The latest wrinkle is that I replied that "I'm basically OK" on Facebook (everyone was freaking out since they didn't know what happened), and SHE got all upset since it was HER wall.

Hmmm. I think she needs some stress management.

Ya think :) I mean, how much of PTSD management should be stress management?

 

[The Albatross]

Heh. I think it should be directly proportional to the amount of perceived stress. Eventually it is, for me too time consuming to deal with my stress reactions and the managing of them and I give up and level out for a while again. (Said with a bit of jest, but there is a nugget of truth in there) ;)

 

[dayglo]

Today has been a horrible horrible day. She's totally triggered.

First the stressor of yesterday. I also think my wife is so afraid that I'm not OK (ie I won't be able to take care of *her*) that she's driving me up the wall
- "You shouldn't go to work on Monday" ... meanwhile I am fine today, just a little sore
- "I having someone come over tomorrow to clean up the house and do the dishes" - I said OK to this
- "I'm having someone come over tomorrow to cook for us" - I asked her why since the housekeeper has and could do some light cooking. She blew up at me and said I don't trust her because she is the "identified patient"

After screaming back and forth for a few minutes, I calmly told her that I'm ready to leave the house if this continues even though the Dr said I should not drive until Monday. She screamed some more so I finally went outside and checked the mail just to get away from the tension.

She blew up even more saying that I did this to SPITE HER. Then she left the house and said that she is "going to shop until she drops" and we'll see how it feels for me to have someone do something spiteful.

I'm glad she left the house, and wish she did that sooner, but not under these conditions.

 

[safenow]

She needs a lot of stress management. Very out of control. Bless your heart. Not what you need to be dealing with at all.

 

[Bilby]

The latest wrinkle is that I replied that "I'm basically OK" on Facebook (everyone was freaking out since they didn't know what happened), and SHE got all upset since it was HER wall.

She's certainly wanting this to be about her, isn't she?

She blew up even more saying that I did this to SPITE HER. Then she left the house and said that she is "going to shop until she drops" and we'll see how it feels for me to have someone do something spiteful.

What? Wow. You need to definitely stand your ground and not let her cross the line by speaking/treating you this way.

 

[The Albatross]

The spending spree (if it is overboard) is financial sabotage. I'd call her out on it if you find that she way over did it.