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PeekieBlue
Hi Kabeh394
If he did it would purely be unintentional I.e where he is so worked up and out of control. He had an extremely abusive childhood and witnessed domestic violence and detests violence against women so I can honestly say I really don't think he ever would.
Things have really improved in the last few days. I have reassured him I still love him and am here for him but have stuck to my boundary that we cannot live together until he finishes therapy and there is a big improvement in him controlling his anger.
He has realised now the depth of the problem and that he needs to work on achieving this. I think we both feel better that the pressure is off for now. I now have my own home and safe place and he will have his own place so if he is having a bad time he can have time to himself.
I'm under no illusion that we have a long way to go and there are no guarantees but I am so glad I made the decision to take over the house and for him to move out. I instantly feel more in control of the situation. He is now accepting and more hopeful.
There may be hope for us yet :-)
If he did it would purely be unintentional I.e where he is so worked up and out of control. He had an extremely abusive childhood and witnessed domestic violence and detests violence against women so I can honestly say I really don't think he ever would.
Things have really improved in the last few days. I have reassured him I still love him and am here for him but have stuck to my boundary that we cannot live together until he finishes therapy and there is a big improvement in him controlling his anger.
He has realised now the depth of the problem and that he needs to work on achieving this. I think we both feel better that the pressure is off for now. I now have my own home and safe place and he will have his own place so if he is having a bad time he can have time to himself.
I'm under no illusion that we have a long way to go and there are no guarantees but I am so glad I made the decision to take over the house and for him to move out. I instantly feel more in control of the situation. He is now accepting and more hopeful.
There may be hope for us yet :-)
