Relationship :( I Had To Let My Boyfriend Go

[Sighs]

Be kind to yourself hon. Love can't "save" anyone and it certainly can't cure an illness. It isn't your fault. Nothing you could do differently would magically cure his PTSD. If you had come to the point where you had to leave for your own sanity then that's just the sad fact.

 

[Meadowsweet]

I think your honesty and to act on that honesty shows a great deal of strength and a genuine ability to love.

To lose something that you had hoped for, is sad, and it is natural for you to grieve, and although it's a cliche, time does ease the pain of grief. Be kind to yourself, and give yourself time to grieve. But keep your honesty, it is a strength really.

 

[Philippa]

Sounds like you are just being honest with yourself. If more people were honest with themselves about what they are feeling and whether they are strong enough, the world would be a better place.

 

[nursenurse]

You can be the strongest person in the world, but if the relationship just is not right, it will not work. Maybe it is who can't see that you are not meant to be together.

It takes time to heal from this, but you will, and you will grow, and you will learn, and when the right person comes, you will be ready. In the mean time, grieve, but don't get stuck. You deserve happiness too. Good luck.

 

[abs_21]

You're not awful, you are just putting yourself first and there is nothing wrong with that and I think it is a very brave thing that you have done xx

 

[ISupportHer]

I will jump on board too and stress that you are not awful. It is a sad fact that, in PTSD relationships, all is not sunny and bright and that there is not always a happy ending. I do not know all of your details so probably should not risk saying the wrong thing. but........

We all need to take care of ourselves. That comes in many ways depending on individual circumstances. Sadly that sometimes means letting go.

Secondly, I read here somewhere that sometimes the best way we can show our love to our sufferers is to step aside. Sometimes that is simply by giving them space in our daily lives. Sometimes that is saying that I love you, I wish you the best, and letting go.

I wish you peace and hope that you see your own strength in doing what you feel you need to do.

 

[Lidia]

I don't know your story and each one is different but you never know how things may develop. I think that, as supporters of PTSD sufferers, we owe it to ourselves and the other person to look after ourselves and keep nourishing our minds and souls, regardless of whether we decide to stay in the relationship or not. Whatever happens, keep loving yourself and looking after yourself. Feeling good about who you are will always give you more strength, whatever life throws at you. A big hug to you.