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I Hate Depression!

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kimmi12479

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This is only my second post but I need some support. I am at my wits end with depression, PTSD, agoraphobia, and anxiety. I just feel so overwhelmed. I was turned down for Social Security disability yesterday. So, I feel like I even fail at failing. I was fired from my last 3 jobs due to this stupid illness (although the employers didn't know that was why they fired me). I feel stupid telling anyone I am depressed because they always ask "Why?". I dont have an answer for that. Everyone assumes that I am still depressed about my mother's suicide. Sure, that's the case sometimes but rarely. I just feeling lonely and sad.

Kim
 
I feel stupid telling anyone I am depressed because they always ask "Why?". I dont have an answer for that.
You don't have to have one, and even if you had one, you wouldn't have to tell anybody.

I don't think you're failing. You acknowledge that you are ill, you got a diagnosis, you accept that diagnosis, you have an idea of the causes, you went out to get therapy - those are some big, important steps that you already took towards getting better :)

Sometimes you just have to hang on and keep going, no matter how hard it is. Only when you keep going you'll be able to reach a healthier place than the one you're in right now.
 
(((Kim))) You are not alone in the way that you feel. I'm sorry you are having such a hard time right now.

I also got turned down for disability but I appealled and then won my case (so, there's hope). Just like you, I had a really rough time with maintaining employment too.

Hoping you find some peace soon. Hugs.
 
I see this was several months ago, but I too am having a great deal of difficulty with Anxiety, Depression, and getting disability. I've been turned down twice so far and the lawyer basically is telling me i have no case. I think i have fallen into too many doctors that don't want to help. I essentially feel duped for seeing a therapist for 4 years who was always saying no, disability wasn't the answer. I feel like the only person supporting me is my mother whom i live with, and who's retirement i am ruining. Does anyone have any advice?

~Brian
 
No, don't have much advice -- sounds like you need someone on your side, like a friend who knows you, who you can vent to, and use as a sounding board to bounce ideas off. Maybe trying something new, read the paper for ideas on less stressful jobs, maybe go to one of those temp-agencies and do some temp work while you are searching for new career opportunities. They don't expect you to do perfect work as a temp; just someone willing to 'try' till the regular person gets back.

I like volunteering for trash pick-up, filling food bank boxes for the poor and elderly shut-ins or help them do inventory, anything I can do on my own, but still feel as if I'm helping the community in some way. These kinds of things will get you 'out there' and maybe you'll bump into someone along the way willing to help you. Indirect roads to finding a way around in the world can feel almost like fate -- but fate can't find you if you sit in the only place you can't bump into it (at home). I don't really believe in fate, but it can put a little whimsy in your day if you pretend to believe.

You need to be in the world to find your way around. It won't come to you at home. We deal with symptoms of the illness, and depression can be a huge hurtle. B-complex vitamin might give you an initial boost ... not all the way, but can shove you out the door. There are herbal 'thing' in alternative medicine that can also assist; and getting your blood flowing, don't stay sedentary. A brisk walk (after taking the other stuff I mentioned) can add to their effect.

You'll need to utilize other tools once you are in the concrete jungle. It sounds harsh to say take control of your life -- it is harsh, and I'd be upset at anyone who told me that. But no one can know or understand how hard I work to stay functioning -- and maybe they shouldn't. My life is my life, and if I can't find help I have to find a piece of me that is healthy and get that piece to grow large enough to help myself. There was a long stretch where I did have "help" but it was the wrong kind. There were some benefits, but sometimes it just made it worse. I would choose nothing over wrong help any day.

I could explain about the personality type test, but I think I've posted enough in several places to easily find in the search box. This may not be important for those who are in the middle of the extrovert/introvert scale -- most therapists use tools for the middle people. They don't think to check first where you are before they start. It was only my last inpatient stay as a kid that they gave me the long version of the test.

There are free ones online, but they are shortened -- they can give you a general idea and is a good place to start. The online versions are not accurate to a T, but you can read them and decide; or go to a career counseling center and ask to take the long version. Taking that type test was the start of really figuring out, not only theraputic needs, but also things that would best suit me for career, living environment, how to best interact with others, and other 'life' things that I wouldn't have thought of before.
 
Hi Brian,

I can't speak for your particular circumstances but as 712 says, there are things you CAN do to aleviate your sitution.

If meds aren't your thing, looking to complimentary therapies might help. Put your sceptical mind to one side and give it a try.

My husband, now virually unemployable, is starting a new volunteer job. Just two hours a month installing digital radios for blind people.

Just try to hang on to some hope - and focus on yourself, what you can do - not what you can't.
 
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