I Hate Hearing Children Scream....

[Melody coates]

I really can't stand it......it almost makes me want to cry. anyone else experience this?

 

[Deleted member 1860]

Yes. A shrieking child can make my anxiety skyrocket for the rest of the day. But shhhh, don't say it out loud or you'll be labeled a child hater.

 

[Jen93]

That and hearing a child cry are big triggers for me. Best thing to do is just breathe in and out slowly until either they leave or you can make a quick exit. And @Solara I'm anything but a child hater. I want to be a teacher someday. Best thing we can do is own our triggers and try to wait calmly until an opportune chance to get out. That and realizing they might be screaming/crying for a variety of reasons that has nothing to do with being intentionally hurt. They might just be tired or hungry (especially babies. After all, there is no other way for them to communicate.) or frustrated for some reason.

 

[Melody coates]

@Jen93 omg that's how I look at it! if I hear a child or even a baby scream I automatically think they're being hurt :(

 

[Starlite]

It really irritates me to hear a child screaming. I have a child so I can kind of tell the difference between a needing cry or scream or if the child is just a spoiled brat and is crying because they want something they can't have. My son is 10 years old and he can't stand when he hears babies or small children screaming. He plugs his ears because he says it hurts his head. I'm sorry but in my opinion some of those children deserve " a bare ass whippin" as my mom called it when I was young.

 

[Deleted member 1860]

I never said you were a child hater. I was referring to the fact that assholes will label you as such.

 

[Bees Are Awesome]

I have two young boys. They scream when they are angry, sad, upset, happy, excited, frustrated...You get the picture. Despite the fact that they scream quite often, I am still not used to it. It always startles me and my anxiety skyrockets. I try and try to remind myself that I am safe, that it was my son(s) and they are okay and so am I. Still it takes a while for my anxiety to come back down. I hope that they scream less as they get older and that someday it doesn't affect me as much as it does now.

 

[Jen93]

@Solara Oh, right. Sorry about that. Just read it again and realized I thought it was in the wrong context. And @Starlite Nobody deserves to be hit. Ever. If a child is "being a spoiled brat" It's because they need some form of entertainment. Or they might just not know how to communicate their feelings.

I'm going to back away now because this conversation has made me angry. I have tried to be mature about it though, but please excuse me for leaving.

 

[Starlite]

@Jen93 Sorry for upsetting you. Did not mean to. I'm just expressing my opinion. I believe children do not need to be entertained at all times and there are some children who are just awful. I've seen it and have been around it. And I'm talking about a swat on the butt with your hand not beating the child. I don't believe a swat on the butt ever hurt anyone. But there is a limit. I see moms trying to talk to some of these children in a nice calming voice telling them to please stop and calm down and that child will slap the mother in the face. I've seen moms almost afraid to tell their children to stop like they are afraid of them. I do respect your opinion and I'm sorry if I offended you.

 

[joeylittle]

I recall reading a study where the sounds of infants crying were studied to determine if we have some sort of genetic pre-programming to make us highly anxious/upset at the sound; the idea being about having an automatic "help the baby" sort of thing. I'm going to try and find the article; it also referred to similar behavior in other mammals.

But it made sense to me at the time, that we'd be born with the ability to recognize the cry of a young member of our species, and be sort of pre-programmed to respond; the quality of the response would vary person to person, of course.

 

[Justmehere]

Spanking a kid for disciplinary reasons is different than spanking a kid because someone is upset/overwhelmed/triggered by their behavior. Sometimes kids need more than just to be spanked - but they may need help leaning how to regulate their own emotions too.

Seems pretty normal to be bothered by screaming of children. It's loud and disturbing. If the child is hurt and in pain, if the kid is just misbehaving - it's not being a child hater to hate the screaming and be freaked out by it. I would be more concerned if it never bothered someone...

 

[Ghostybear73]

Cryiing is the worst. Last night I got home and my daughter made a huge portrait of here version of sugar land spelled "suger land". I ooowed and awwwwwed and told her how perfect but it was, then let her know that sugar was spelled wrong.

My roommate, who is a horrible speller says it's right and I say, okay. Then they decide to look it up to show me how to spell sugar and he tells her that mom is right. All of a sudden, she burst into tears and starts whining about how she is going to have to redo it. Nothing I say is helping, she just keeps crying.

So, I walk inside, go to my room and lock myself in for the night. Unlless you are bleeding or broken, I can't handle it