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I Hate These Kind Of Situations

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Heather

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I hate these kind of situations and this is why lately I rather just hide in the closet than deal with other people.

My daughter is in 2nd grade and wanted a play date with this girl in her class. I arranged the play date. To make a long story short, her little friend (sophia) has been over a few times and quite frankly is disrespectful, rude and obnoxious. I don't want her around my daughter. An example: we were shopping and at checkout she kept asking me to buy her things and when I told her "no!" She got very snotty and said, "I told my mother I never wanted to go with you again 'cause you won't buy me anything".

After the last play date I called her mother and told her how she had been acting. The mother apologized profusely and said she should apologize to me for her rude behavior. This has yet to happen (3 weeks ago maybe longer). She's mad at my daughter (Nicole) and has been quite nasty to her in school i.e. not talking to her, telling other kids not to talk to her.

I told Nicole no more play dates with Sophia for awhile. I guess she told my daughter she wanted to come over and Nicole said, "my mother said I'm not allowed to play with you". So, her mother called me and said, "Nicole said that she couldn't play with Sophia anymore". When I said, "Yeah, that there'd be no more play dates....." in mid-sentence. She got all huffy and hung up in my face. Just because her daughter got over her hissy fit and decided she wants to be friends with Nicole again.... what about next time?

Then fast foward to yesterday: she kept calling and calling me because she needed to know the time and place of a birthday party of one of their classmates. I texted her the the time and place. I think I did more than most people would have but she wouldn't stop calling my phone. I refused to answer. The last thing I wanted was to talk to her after she hung up in my face.

It's not my fault she misplaced the invite.
 
Hi- well that is crazymaking and high drama. You are doing the best you can in this situation. MY heart goes out to you and your daughter. I hope this all smoothes out for you asap.
 
Aww, that's a little kid you are talking about wife. :( It isn't her fault she isn't being taught right. Maybe you are just having an off day and didn't think before posting. I do that too sometimes. Anyone with that cute of an avatar can't be all bad. ;) Just try not to insult a little kid though. Plus, as adults it is our job to correct a child when their behavior is heading in the wrong direction. The kid's job is to learn from their mistakes, not be belittled by them.

We all have to remember we are the adults, and our feelings need to stay in check and mature; any behavior of the child that may hurt your feelings should be address, but not on the defensive. Tell them it hurt your feelings, and teach them you are still on their side, even if they make a mistake. Kids get offended easily and say horrible things on impulse. Their brains are not fully mature. As adults with more experience, it is important not to stoop to their level. They won't learn anything that way.
 
Nope no off day and as far as I can see I have not insulted the child merely pointed out that her deplorable mother is fashioning her child in her own image.

I'm sorry you read more into my opinion than is clearly stated.
 
Wos...been through a few of these..stick to your guns...sounds like the pood child will turn out just like mommy...neither yourself or your daughter need to deal with folk like that.

Exactly my thinking that is why I have decided to know longer engage this woman. Silence being the best way to deal with her.

I just want the drama to stop and for her to leave me alone. I also requested that the 2 of them NOT be in the same class next year. The principal said he didn't have a problem with that.

I am truly done with all this b.s.
 
Heather,

You called it what it is B.S. Nicole will learn a lesson from this in regard to true friendship, but unfortunately many lessons like that are painful.

But you are 100% to cut the drama out.

Deb
 
Thank you for all your support. I never know if what I am doing is the right thing. It really helps to get feedback.
 
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