Aquaria777
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Hi, so I’m new here. I’ve been dating this guy for over a year now and things have been great. We’ve had our fair share of arguments because I have bipolar disorder and was unmedicated for a while but now I’m back on.
So there was a situation I had where I met his college friends. One was a girl and I was excited to meet her and heard a lot of great things. We meet at a party and it felt that she just wanted to talk about her dating life the whole night. She was even swiping through hinge at one point and really gave off a desperate vibe. I brushed it off at first because maybe she’s just lonely. The night continues and she randomly asks me if me and my bf say I love you to each other. It caught me off guard cuz we were in an uber on the way to a club and after I answered she just said okay and didn’t say anything else. So I brushed that off as well. We’re at the club, I try dancing with her and she’s just very standoffish, and doesn’t engage with me really. I started dancing with my bf and since we were drinking, we were kissing a little and she made a backhanded comment. I brushed that off as well until we got back to the house where the party was, and i sat at the table while my bf, the girl and another friend who came with us were sitting on the couch. She then starts talking openly about her last sexual encounter telling all the details and it made me feel really uncomfortable that she was saying all this to my bf while i was on the other side of the room. I tried to brush it off after that night but couldn’t so I told my bf how I felt. He said he’d talk to her and later told me that she said she was sorry and that she enjoyed meeting me and didn’t mean to make me feel weird.
So i let it go until recently she added me on instagram. I felt it was strange she never actually said anything to me personally because I’m the type of person where if I offend you, I’d want to apologize one on one. Later on me and my bf got invited out to an event and I felt weird because I knew she’d be there. She said hi to me but never brought up what happened the last time. I told my bf that I had a weird gut feeling about the situation. And then after some more push back from me he said he’d handle it.
She reached out to me and apologized and we had a conversation about what happened but come to find out, it was her first time hearing about the situation. He never spoke to her about it and lied about what she said. I felt so sick to my stomach because I’d never lie to him about anything. And the fact that he said he’d handle it the first time but didn’t makes me feel like he wouldn’t have my back in future situations.
He admitted the lie when i confronted him and has been apologetic. I felt very weird about the situation because why lie for this long and allow me to grow these negative feelings about a close friend that he’s known for almost ten years. I want to move on from this situation but now I’m just feeling weird about it all. She seemed very genuine and apologetic but it really bothers me that he didn’t take my feelings seriously and lied.
Anyway thank you for reading. Any advice would be appreciated. <3
So there was a situation I had where I met his college friends. One was a girl and I was excited to meet her and heard a lot of great things. We meet at a party and it felt that she just wanted to talk about her dating life the whole night. She was even swiping through hinge at one point and really gave off a desperate vibe. I brushed it off at first because maybe she’s just lonely. The night continues and she randomly asks me if me and my bf say I love you to each other. It caught me off guard cuz we were in an uber on the way to a club and after I answered she just said okay and didn’t say anything else. So I brushed that off as well. We’re at the club, I try dancing with her and she’s just very standoffish, and doesn’t engage with me really. I started dancing with my bf and since we were drinking, we were kissing a little and she made a backhanded comment. I brushed that off as well until we got back to the house where the party was, and i sat at the table while my bf, the girl and another friend who came with us were sitting on the couch. She then starts talking openly about her last sexual encounter telling all the details and it made me feel really uncomfortable that she was saying all this to my bf while i was on the other side of the room. I tried to brush it off after that night but couldn’t so I told my bf how I felt. He said he’d talk to her and later told me that she said she was sorry and that she enjoyed meeting me and didn’t mean to make me feel weird.
So i let it go until recently she added me on instagram. I felt it was strange she never actually said anything to me personally because I’m the type of person where if I offend you, I’d want to apologize one on one. Later on me and my bf got invited out to an event and I felt weird because I knew she’d be there. She said hi to me but never brought up what happened the last time. I told my bf that I had a weird gut feeling about the situation. And then after some more push back from me he said he’d handle it.
She reached out to me and apologized and we had a conversation about what happened but come to find out, it was her first time hearing about the situation. He never spoke to her about it and lied about what she said. I felt so sick to my stomach because I’d never lie to him about anything. And the fact that he said he’d handle it the first time but didn’t makes me feel like he wouldn’t have my back in future situations.
He admitted the lie when i confronted him and has been apologetic. I felt very weird about the situation because why lie for this long and allow me to grow these negative feelings about a close friend that he’s known for almost ten years. I want to move on from this situation but now I’m just feeling weird about it all. She seemed very genuine and apologetic but it really bothers me that he didn’t take my feelings seriously and lied.
Anyway thank you for reading. Any advice would be appreciated. <3
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