I Hope My Story Isn't Boring!

[Barconian]

My friend Tony, god bless his sole! Popped up on my back doorstep today! I don't know if you don't know me or not, but I will pretend you do! Tony has stage 4 Kidney cancer and has lost one kidney already, the cancer has reached his lungs and brain so far. He is down to 62kgs and is stressing about it. Tony is about 6'2" and looks like he came from a concentration camp, per se'.

Tony has lived the life that many of us has and will not surrender to death, because he believes in himself and those he loves.... Can you comprehend?

 

[Deleted member 24866]

So happy he found reason to fight to survive, will send prayers. I am hoping by the time I get to said point they will approve lethal injection/ I hate watching people and animals suffer.. and feel we take better care of our pets putting them out of their misery. I remember when grandpa was suffering in the nursing home. He begged me to help him.. I know what he meant and it sucked all around having to know where he was at.. and walking away. (Not that I could or would but wish someone would have put him out of the pain. Never the less within a week he passed.).. Sorry Barconian, being new I am not yet familiar with your story, but I'm sure in time I will find it on here.. take care and prayers with you also.

 

[Tinyflame]

:wideeyed: Totally. :wideeyed: That was my dad (and much of my childhood). And apparently his dad, my mom (without the ptsd, in a much more petite version. ;) And her sisters. )

Tony has lived the life that many of us has and will not surrender to death, because he believes in himself and those he loves.... Can you comprehend?

What a beautiful thing you said above. :wideeyed: :) :hug:

 

[Barconian]

I am hoping by the time I get to said point they will approve lethal injection/ I hate watching people and animals suffer..

Tony and I were talking about Euthanasia a few weeks ago when his pain was getting to him and the way people that are suffering, legally must suffer to appease selfish emotions of others. He was wondering how he could do it and then thought about his own father ending his life from cancer and figured he may as well endure the pain and try to make the most of what time he has left... His time was meant to be last September and he keeps going strong!

Yesterday Tony told me that he is frightened of dying, his life has meaning now and he doesn't want it to stop and also worries what people think when he moans in pain. Because he feels he is letting them down somehow and he doesn't like pity!

 

[franciemarnie]

I am glad you are his friend.

I know this may be too late to help him but baking soda and water 3X a day will help his kidney excrete the poisons. My husband has Stage 3 kidney disease and his blood work has improved 25% since taking a half teaspoon 3X a day.

There is a science to this. The sick kidney can't make bicarbonate like it should, which gets rid of bad stuff and let's oxygen run free. Doctors in England are doing this widely. Not so the U.S. I am cynical as to why that is so. (Big bucks.)

It may reduce his discomfort at the very least.

Bless you both.

 

[Barconian]

I know this may be too late to help him but baking soda and water 3X a day will help his kidney excrete the poisons. My husband has Stage 3 kidney disease and his blood work has improved 25% since taking a half teaspoon 3X a day.

Thanks @franciemarnie. I will mention it to him today. Anything that helps is a good thing :)

 

[Deleted member 24866]

Clearly he has a strong spirit and it has kept him moving, that is awesome, sounds like a helluva person.

While homeless I spent a lot of time meditating on death, and the metabolic process as our bodies return to the earth, water to sky..energy transforming. I lost several relatives in these years past.. then and especially in difficult times they are always near. I will and do talk to them- and they talk back in their way. I have seen some amazing things ! (I even considered being a mortician at one point.- but I hate gore) I have a background in orthodox Christianity, which unlike some newer churches teaches how to remain in contact and communion beyond death. Well.. I got that out of it anyway. I'm weird.. I could talk and meditate about death/how amazing life is ..believing on so many levels, its just a metamorphosis.. we are caterpillars now.

There is a book I would recommend, that is not about death..but rather an amazing energy that lives in us that could prove inspirational and fairly short read. I don't know if I can tell you about it here? Written by a doctor.. This is only my second day here, I'll see if I can message you a link.

Seriously, my relatives jointly told me in a dream I was pregnant- before I knew.. Also the night my uncle passed I had a dream and was awoken to the phone call, simultaneously. I have sooo many stories that are just.. a blessing to me. I suppose I don't have to many friends on this plane of existence however being so ..weird. :/ (And from my experience it does not matter whether they were "practicing Christians"- still seeing miracles surround em.) Ahh.. but ya'll know I'm a bit nuts.

 

[Barconian]

@franciemarnie I spoke to Tony about the baking soda and he shied away from it, because he didn't have enough facts to trust the idea... I thought it was worth telling him :)

I try to help Tony, but he won't take my money!!! He wants to go back to Forster on the water front and camp. He had to come back to Canberra this week for doctor stuff. So! now Tony is working for me for a week just so I can help him get back to Forster, where he is at his happiest :) The stubborn shit keeps working and hates handouts

 

[franciemarnie]

It was good of you to tell him @Barconian. Most people only trust what doctors tell them. I learned the hard way that's risky. He has free will for sure.

He is who he is and will do what he wants to do I guess. You are a great friend to him though, he knows that, and that is priceless.

 

[Barconian]

Thank you @franciemarnie :) I can't give him all my time as much any more :( My sister is in ICU and my brother is moving in here next Thursday! My brother has stage 4 lung cancer and he is bringing his wife and daughter and I have been living alone for a couple of years :( I am also trying to organise my house for them to fit in and I have a trip into the bush for awhile and I need the right gear to take and the time to organise!

The reason I talk about my friend Tony. Is that I haven't met anyone in my life that has worked his/her ass off to be a kind and giving person that he is. He is on a pension and still gives his kids everything they ask for. The unconditional love and the strength to share it is pretty amazing to watch! This man fought a community to help the weak survive the life they were caught in and he did it.

My only issue is... It hurts to watch him suffer :(

 

[franciemarnie]

Oh gosh I see - yes, it hurts to see him suffer. It hurts, and there isn't anything you can do any more than you already have.

It just hurts.

I wish it weren't so.