I Just Burned A Hate Letter To The Bullies At My High School And I Feel So Much Better.

[Tei-Saji]

I go to college now, and I found that I just wanted to say the things I wanted to say to them, but couldn't.

My memories and feelings were heavily repressed then, so getting them out just makes it so much better. Just wanted to share with you all.

 

[Laurie McLaughlin]

That is great!

 

[Cool Cat]

I still can't bring myself to hate my bullies, well done! Maybe I'll try that.

 

[Lost214]

Five years from now you will see that the bullies are not making it in the world. There is so much jealousy, rage and insecurity in them that life will begin to unravel. This will only worsen for them as life goes on. I can't imagine being in the misery that truly is the bullies life. Not much help for them.
Thankfully your life is going to get better everyday. Never let yourself be defined by the bullies of the world and your past.
Hang in there and remember you are not alone ;-)

 

[Philippa]

Great cathartic strategy. This is something I used to do and would love to remember to do more often when I am mistreated.

 

[Dana1010]

I keep hearing about this. There's writing a letter and not sending it, and then there's keeping an anger book full of notes to them. I bought a notebook to try out the latter of the two but haven't brought myself to write in it yet. I just don't know where to start, and I'm worried about how bad it's going to feel to ruminate on those disgusting people and remember all the things they did and how they made me feel. Do you really feel an improvement? Has it flushed some of the crystallized anger away?

 

[Philippa]

I've tried 'radical honesty' in the past, writing out exactly what I wanted to say to the person, and not holding back in any way and it felt GREAT! I highly recommend anyone trying this method...as long as you don't show it to them. Do whatever you want with it later, but getting it out is important. I like to burn a black candle to absorb all the energy of anger and hatred if that is present. Some therapists even recommend this method as catharsis.