I left facebook

[trying2movefwd]

I feel like it will do wonders for my mental health. We shall see.

 

[Freida]

Me too - -mostly! I still have a couple groups I check in because they make me laugh but I don't keep the front page running anymore. And I'm already seeing a better mood

 

[Tornadic Thoughts]

I found it to be yet another energetic chord that needed to be cut, especially as far as the time and energy I was putting into it.

Once I found relief for most of my ills, and while I was discovering study after study of helpful info, I felt like I needed to tell the world and spent lots of time sharing all the great things I'd found to help me, sharing my stories, and feeling like I was obligated to do so in hopes of helping others.

I thought certainly they'd want to know as most of them were struggling just as much, if not worse than I was. Beep. Wrong answer. I eventually and quite painfully learned that's a very unbalanced and unhealthy approach as I was forever discovering not many folks actually give a damn and often times folks strongly resent things that become "too real" in a platform most use for simple entertainment and as a way to escape their own reality.

It's also rather interesting to see what's shared on a public forum by those you know very personally behind closed doors, realizing they're simply trying to project the image they hope to one day achieve rather than keeping it real by stating things as they actually are.

I also found many folks who like to spread their preferred definitions of spiritual love via social media in one breath, but only if they deem others to be worthy by their standards, which totally goes against the whole concept of their supposed "love and light for everyone" bullshit to begin with. That one really hits home after living decades with supposedly strong spiritual loving folks who also didn't practice what they preached publicly and who also harshly and regularly sexually and physically abused innocent beings behind closed doors.

First, I felt I was using it to keep in touch with loved ones and old friends, until the newness wore off...then I felt it was a perfect platform to share helpful information that literally saved my life and give others hope that many of the things we suffer from can be reversed and/or better managed via our fork, breath, and more mindful consumption, as I had learned out of desperation from being harmed by years of trying typical methods...then I felt it was a great way to keep up with local happenings so I didn't miss out on any learning opportunities....then I realized it's much more useful in my life as simply being a reference point that I visit on occasion as strictly an observer, unless someone specifically tags me, asks a question, or private messages me. My days and my mind space feel lighter as a result.

 

[Mach123]

I have to look at it right now because my son is in S Korea with the Army and said he would prefer to use it to communicate but he has "fallen off the grid" as usual. I hate FaceBook and would not look at it otherwise. They collect everything about you and sell it to people who want to target market you. That's not why I don't like it but it's bad enough. There are alternatives for me in my situation but getting anyone to do anything is, well, you know. We had it good when he was stateside because we just had a group chat on iphone. When he got over there he switched carriers so that's out. : ( It was nice to be in touch with him. Now we are back to "trying not to beg him to message us lol."

 

[Deleted member 44579]

Hi @trying2movefwd.... I only put stuff on Facebook exposing things that people should know like scientology or racism or abuse.. I very rarely tell anyone what im up too.. But use it to promote my art shows and also receive information about art shows I can try and show my work... If selected of course... Yeah I agree alot of people project something that's bullshit and copy all the latest fads...

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But people that abuse and bully other people. That's wrong and cowardly.....

I think some people put far to much information on Facebook.. Like where they are every night or going...

 

[Mach123]

Actually, there are a few closed groups on FB that I joined since my son went in the Army. Ft. Leonard Wood Basic Training, Fort Huachuca AIT family support group, and Go Army Parents. It is very helpful to be in contact with other parents supporting active duty soldiers so, FB is not all bad. : )

 

[Deleted member 29920]

I was forever discovering not many folks actually give a damn

That's what i'm discovering now. Most people really don't give a damn and that's depressing.

....then I realized it's much more useful in my life as simply being a reference point that I visit on occasion as strictly an observer, unless someone specifically tags me, asks a question, or private messages me. My days and my mind space feel lighter as a result.

Yes, this ^

 

[Deleted member 12723]

I have it and made it safe for me but not on it very much anymore. I have some groups I belong to and I appreciate what they share.

 

[Effie]

I left FB around 2009 or 2010. I moved a lot growing up, so there were mostly people I only vaguely remembered. There was a lot of people who liked drama and updates about what people ate and how much exercise they did that day. Or one of dozens and dozens of charities that were too much. I didn't like people I knew from work clashing with people I went to elementary school with and friends from my teen years chatting with my relatives. I like these worlds separate. I didn't consciously decide to stop using FB. I just became reluctant and used it less and less, until I've gone a number of years without checking it.

 

[Cyberluddite]

I left Facebook in mid-September 2016, by mid-May 2017 I left social media altogether.

It took a while to get through the withdrawal, then the mourning of how many friends I lost because they only communicate through Facebook. But the ability to function, and not struggle with the mental fog, has been worth every bit of it.

Besides, the internet isn't real. It's a fantasy life, and it's never as exciting as the real thing.

 

[Rani G2]

Had FB for a few weeks a few years ago. I dislike showing anything... I also try not to appear on other people's photos, not because I have been a victim of a stalker but I just hate the idea of anything personal being available.

Having a very naive mindset, I still dream of living on an island....

 

[BM2A]

I left face book a little while ago. Im scared of who sees me on there. Mostly paranoia. But then I do have good reason. But im thinking of opening a new account with a random alias just so I can stay in touch with some people I want to.