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For about 7 years, I was in an online relationship with a man from a different country. We never met face to face and in the last two years, he was barely around because of some stuff he was going through. I could barely get him to call and when I did, we would only fight. He was 53 and I’m 28.
I met a guy at work (21 years old) who initially creeped me out. For months, he’d follow me around and constantly help me with my job. If I tried to reach for a box, he’d get right behind me and grab it. I tried to distance myself and he’d get irritated. I didn’t want to make things awkward as he was my coworker so I’d try to clear the air. Eventually he asked me to sit in his car with him on our breaks. I awkwardly agreed but hoped he’d get the hint from my hesitation. He then asked me to go out to a gas station with him on our lunch break. On the way there I said we’re just friends right? He annoyingly asked why do you keep saying that? I said I have to tell you something when we get back because I was afraid how he’d react.
I told him I was in a relationship but I’d like to be friends. He said I’m glad you said that because I was afraid I was leading you on. A huge weight felt lifted off and I called my ex later and told him about it and he was all fine with us going out platonic. Our job had refused to let us work together at this point on a side note saying we are flirting too much. He told me he was just divorced, she crushed him and he wasn’t ready for a relationship.
So we went to play pool and bowl and all the while I still felt he was being flirty. He’d stare deep into my eyes and behave in ways he wouldn’t with anyone else. He took me to a bar, and ordered me drinks. I got drunk. We kissed. He said I’m taking you home. I said I can’t go home or I’ll be in trouble for being wasted (just current living situation). So he took me to where he was staying with his brother.
I was so drunk by this point I thought I was dying but we attempted to have sex. That failed and he laid next to me cuddling and comforting me. I squirmed out of his arms and tried to sleep in his brothers bed (brother slept on the couch).
Next morning, I called my ex after I got home. I told him everything. He broke up with me.
The new guy sent me a text saying I make him so happy and he’s very attracted to me and wants another more intimate experience but still wants to remain friends.
I cried for a week and this guy I cheated with knew about my pain. He would drive on his days off to my job on my lunch break and he’d kiss me and I’d cry. There were a lot of times I’d cry and even said I miss my ex. So he started saying I want you to get back with your ex.
We did have sex three more times in one night. But he hesitated when I asked if he wanted to, only for a second though. He asked “is it going to make you uncomfortable?” I said no. Later he asked “are your brothers going to come kick my ass?” I said no they like you. He got quiet.
So after that night, something in me changed. I guess suddenly I started feeling something for this guy. So we go to work and I start being mean in my texts saying I don’t want to be friends and getting annoyed when he said I don’t want a relationship right now. I was genuinely emotional and I apologized but I was confused and hurt.
He said he likes me but needs time to think but I didn’t really get it and continued to text. He blocked my number.
I tried asking him in person to talk. He said I’m not going to be around someone that doesn’t respect my boundaries. I said I’m sorry and weeks went by. I did a stupid thing reaching out from a different number which I beat myself up for everyday now. Obv that angered him extremely badly. He told me it won’t work out for the absolutely last time leave me alone.
So I did. I have not spoken to him since January 14th, not even at work. My coworker told me he was jealous seeing me talking to another guy. So I guess my question is why care about me talking to another guy?
Is there any hope he may see a reason to try again or is it completely over? At work he looks at me but looks away when I look. He looks very depressed. But I’m afraid to speak because of his last text. I miss him but I also don’t want to be with someone that doesn’t want me. I guess I’m looking for advice
For about 7 years, I was in an online relationship with a man from a different country. We never met face to face and in the last two years, he was barely around because of some stuff he was going through. I could barely get him to call and when I did, we would only fight. He was 53 and I’m 28.
I met a guy at work (21 years old) who initially creeped me out. For months, he’d follow me around and constantly help me with my job. If I tried to reach for a box, he’d get right behind me and grab it. I tried to distance myself and he’d get irritated. I didn’t want to make things awkward as he was my coworker so I’d try to clear the air. Eventually he asked me to sit in his car with him on our breaks. I awkwardly agreed but hoped he’d get the hint from my hesitation. He then asked me to go out to a gas station with him on our lunch break. On the way there I said we’re just friends right? He annoyingly asked why do you keep saying that? I said I have to tell you something when we get back because I was afraid how he’d react.
I told him I was in a relationship but I’d like to be friends. He said I’m glad you said that because I was afraid I was leading you on. A huge weight felt lifted off and I called my ex later and told him about it and he was all fine with us going out platonic. Our job had refused to let us work together at this point on a side note saying we are flirting too much. He told me he was just divorced, she crushed him and he wasn’t ready for a relationship.
So we went to play pool and bowl and all the while I still felt he was being flirty. He’d stare deep into my eyes and behave in ways he wouldn’t with anyone else. He took me to a bar, and ordered me drinks. I got drunk. We kissed. He said I’m taking you home. I said I can’t go home or I’ll be in trouble for being wasted (just current living situation). So he took me to where he was staying with his brother.
I was so drunk by this point I thought I was dying but we attempted to have sex. That failed and he laid next to me cuddling and comforting me. I squirmed out of his arms and tried to sleep in his brothers bed (brother slept on the couch).
Next morning, I called my ex after I got home. I told him everything. He broke up with me.
The new guy sent me a text saying I make him so happy and he’s very attracted to me and wants another more intimate experience but still wants to remain friends.
I cried for a week and this guy I cheated with knew about my pain. He would drive on his days off to my job on my lunch break and he’d kiss me and I’d cry. There were a lot of times I’d cry and even said I miss my ex. So he started saying I want you to get back with your ex.
We did have sex three more times in one night. But he hesitated when I asked if he wanted to, only for a second though. He asked “is it going to make you uncomfortable?” I said no. Later he asked “are your brothers going to come kick my ass?” I said no they like you. He got quiet.
So after that night, something in me changed. I guess suddenly I started feeling something for this guy. So we go to work and I start being mean in my texts saying I don’t want to be friends and getting annoyed when he said I don’t want a relationship right now. I was genuinely emotional and I apologized but I was confused and hurt.
He said he likes me but needs time to think but I didn’t really get it and continued to text. He blocked my number.
I tried asking him in person to talk. He said I’m not going to be around someone that doesn’t respect my boundaries. I said I’m sorry and weeks went by. I did a stupid thing reaching out from a different number which I beat myself up for everyday now. Obv that angered him extremely badly. He told me it won’t work out for the absolutely last time leave me alone.
So I did. I have not spoken to him since January 14th, not even at work. My coworker told me he was jealous seeing me talking to another guy. So I guess my question is why care about me talking to another guy?
Is there any hope he may see a reason to try again or is it completely over? At work he looks at me but looks away when I look. He looks very depressed. But I’m afraid to speak because of his last text. I miss him but I also don’t want to be with someone that doesn’t want me. I guess I’m looking for advice
