i want to tell my mother i was sexually assaulted but i dont know how

[swaninterrupted]

i really want to tell my mother that i was sexually assaulted several times over the course of a year by my best friend, but im really scared. she’ll probably not take it seriously because the perpetrator was female, we were both teenagers (i was 13 and she was 14), and i didn’t tell her immediately after it happened. any tips on telling her?

 

[arfie]

i find myself questioning the wisdom of telling her, at all, unless the two of you are close enough to share such intimate details. i don't know many adults who could easily share such details with parental units. attempts to tell them only rock the proverbial boat. in my own case, it only generated more hard feelings and friction.

the precious few adults i know who are that close to one or more of their parents still find it hard to speak up. they started with a casual, one-on-one activity they enjoy sharing together. something down the line of a bottle of wine and a movie night.

 

[swaninterrupted]

i find myself questioning the wisdom of telling her, at all, unless the two of you are close enough to share such intimate details. i don't know many adults who could easily share such details with parental units. attempts to tell them only rock the proverbial boat. in my own case, it only generated more hard feelings and friction.

the precious few adults i know who are that close to one or more of their parents still find it hard to speak up. they started with a casual, one-on-one activity they enjoy sharing together. something down the line of a bottle of wine and a movie night.

i told her and for the most part she was really supportive of me, i’m glad i spoke

 

[arfie]

i told her and for the most part she was really supportive of me, i’m glad i spoke

i'm happy dancing for you, swan! ! !
would your mother, perchance, be interested in adopting a 70 year old daughter? just hoping. . .

 

[abovedown]

@swaninterrupted I am glad your talk went well with your mother! You might want to consider a talking therapy too if you start getting symptoms like flash-backs or nightmares relating to your abuse.