I Was Lied To!

[tigrou465]

I as lied to but the good thing about it is I knew all along. My inner guts kept on telling me that what I was told sounded false. Recently I registered myself on a web site because I wanted to meet someone. This very good looking man started to talk to me but every time I ask him some questions, he was vague in his answers.He said he was from Switzerland but living here in America for the last 10 years. When I asked for witch company he worked for well he did not know what to asnwer and he said something that did not make sense. I know he was lying. I am desapointed cause I taught prior to that conversation that maybe life was giving me a gift, meet someone nice even if we have stayed friends. Why do people do that, lie like that? Why don't they just say "Hey I would like to talk, no string attached!" Even if my inner guts was telling me to be vigilent, I am disappointed. He was a phony and I know I should not feel bad about this thing but I'm still disappointed. Am I weird?

 

[Iron_Angel]

Nope, not weird. Some disappointment is understandable. Congratulations that you listened to your inner voice and exposed the liar! I have been in the same situation. Exposed quite a few lying con artists (it starts to get easy once you know what to look for).

But the real punch line to my story is that I also met some good people, and one who is very special indeed.

 

[tigrou465]

Thank you Iron_Angel. Yes there are good people also. I have talk with very good person including some people here on this site. Hopefully on my way I will meet much more interesting and honest person.

 

[Grace11]

How disappointing, but great job on listening to your instincts.....it's hard to do sometimes, but that voice is usually right....it's always been dead on with me.

 

[jesse]

Hi Tigrou I'm glad you figured it out because that could have been a really dangerous situation in addition to being a disappointment. I sometimes think it's from PTSD but then objectively look at my own experiences and find that a majority of the people I have met and really liked turn out to be insincere. It's hard not to completely give up sometimes and just become withdrawn and isolated. I have done that a lot but thankfully have met some pretty amazing people when I keep on trying. I guess what I am trying to say is try not to completely lose hope because good people are bound to come your way at some point. Again I'm sorry you went through that painful experience.

 

[blynn895]

been there, done that! i think we are so used to not listening to our feelings and having appropriate boundaries with new people, we can be fooled by ignoring the warning signs. I myself have been hurt too many times to count in relationships, romantic and otherwise (lied to, betrayed severely, abused etc). Now I give my trust to very few people, which leads to a more lonely existence, but to me its easier than getting hurt over and over.. i need more therapy I guess so i can learn to trust and love myself more. I have a very trustworthy husband who is always there for me and I can count on, and I'm sort of trusting my therapist now, even that has been a struggle as I've had a few lousy counsellors in the past. One day at a time I guess. Hang in there, I can relate and am here for you.

 

[blynn895]

I just read up on abit on attachment problems and PTSD , bad relationships, and this really hit home for me (on how we keep trusting the wrong people, reenacting our trauma/betrayal bonds):
http://ptsdme.blogspot.com/2005/12/more-on-betrayal-bonds-aka-trauma.html