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I'd Still Have Friends, But I Don't.

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I'd be happy to game with anyone here. I have a 360 and PC.

Other cheap hobbies to get you out there:

Pellet or rim fire leagues
Classes at the YMCA
Mushroom hunting (there are groups everywhere)
Gaming with clans
Tabletop gaming (board games, miniature war games, etc)
Annex classes at the local community college
Volunteering; food banks, soup kitchens, parks departments, etc.
Writing groups
Book clubs
Geocaching
Ghost hunting
Historical reenactment
 
....................Tabletop gaming (board games, miniature war games, etc)...................Historical reenactment

That my release and they work realy well, of course you still the idiot who you don`t like but you have at least a pretty close knit group with the same intrests
 
Snack,
For me it was all about trust. I could not allow anyone to see the real me. Still a bit like that today but getting better.
I'd worry if I'd meet muster - if I'd measure up. What BS! To have a friend you have to be a friend. In other words allow someone to help you and it turn help someone else. For me it was the end of my desire for isolation. Every time I put my hand out to someone I'd touch two more in return. JennyMac said it all!

Hobbies are good! Being somewhat handy I got into warship modeling. The times when I felt I needed to be alone I'd go to my cave and work on my model. It's quiet and I'm doing something productive and feeling good about accomplishing something.

My circle is not about quantity it's about quality The more open I'm with others - the more honest I can be with myself and whats going on with me on a regular basis. Remember You have seen more in your young life than 99% of the people you'll meet in your entire life.
If they don't give a fat rats ass shame on them - your here with the remaining 1% and we care!

Ba
 
Is there anything on this website that helps vets meet up? I just moved to a new city and I can totally relate to these posts. I really want to find some friends to hang out with, but it just doesn't seem to click with the people I'm in class with right now. but I can sit and talk to any vet for hours.
 
See if the Vet Center has a presence there at your school. Watch the bulletin boards. Found a Nam Vet Fraternity that way. Keep an eye out for camos of your era, I know we wore our camos a lot. Look in the local paper for Vet groups. If you do hook up with some one, they might know when and where Vets meet up. Volunteer if you can.

As far as anyone from this board meeting up with you, that's between you and them.

Sarg
 
Is there anything on this website that helps vets meet up? I just moved to a new city and I can totally relate to these posts. I really want to find some friends to hang out with, but it just doesn't seem to click with the people I'm in class with right now. but I can sit and talk to any vet for hours.

Look up some of your old mates.
 
I don't know where you live, but many larger cities have writing groups aimed towards vets. I've made a few close friends through some of the ones around the NYC area, but I suck at keeping in touch with people. My social life now consists of my husband, my parents, and one chick who's such a drunken train wreck that I catch up with her sometimes just for the entertainment value... Everyone else? They're just acquaintances.

Used to be even worse when I was single. I burned through men like I burned through money. But I got tired of being lonely and slutty, so I married the only guy who was dumb enough to ask me so I married a squid.

You just need a couple close friends. You don't need an entire following. A hobby will help with the boredom though. That's why I joined a bowling league. (I'm not that old, still in my mid-20's, but bowling is the only social activity I'm any good at. Despite being an avid reader, I'm not really into book groups.)
 
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I don't know where you live, but many larger cities have writing groups aimed towards vets. I've made a few close friends through some of the ones around the NYC area, but I suck at keeping in touch with people. My social life now consists of my husband, my parents, and one chick who's such a drunken train wreck that I catch up with her sometimes just for the entertainment value... Everyone else? They're just acquaintances.

Used to be even worse when I was single. I burned through men like I burned through money. But I got tired of being lonely and slutty, so I married the only guy who was dumb enough to ask me so I married a squid.

You just need a couple close friends. You don't need an entire following. A hobby will help with the boredom though. That's why I joined a bowling league. (I'm not that old, still in my mid-20's, but bowling is the only social activity I'm any good at. Despite being an avid reader, I'm not really into book groups.)
I dont think I could ever get bored with being slutty, as for friends, I have excepted the fact most civilians will never know how to be a friend, just an acquaintance.
 
I dont think I could ever get bored with being slutty, as for friends, I have excepted the fact most civilians will never know how to be a friend, just an acquaintance.

There were a few civilians whom I've considered friends. I just didn't talk about some shit with them. Hell, I barely talked about it with my vet friends. Most of the time when it would come up, I would try to change the subject or excuse myself from the conversation. I don't need to feel understood by people. That's not even something I care about.

And LOL! Thursday night, I dragged my husband to a bar for "karaoke night" and some guy at a table started waving and smiling at me. Is it a bad thing that my first thought was, Is that someone I f*cked years ago? Sheesh, how trashed was I? I thought my standards were *a little* higher than that, but then again I don't remember what many of them looked like.

It turned out he was a cop who had pulled me over two weeks ago but didn't issue a ticket because I batted my eyelashes (and because I really had no f*cking idea you're not allowed to have tinted windows in NJ, and the car was bought out of state.)
 
There were a few civilians whom I've considered friends. I just didn't talk about some shit with them. Hell, I barely talked about it with my vet friends. Most of the time when it would come up, I would try to change the subject or excuse myself from the conversation. I don't need to feel understood by people. That's not even something I care about.

And LOL! Thursday night, I dragged my husband to a bar for "karaoke night" and some guy at a table started waving and smiling at me. Is it a bad thing that my first thought was, Is that someone I f*cked years ago? Sheesh, how trashed was I? I thought my standards were *a little* higher than that, but then again I don't remember what many of them looked like.

It turned out he was a cop who had pulled me over two weeks ago but didn't issue a ticket because I batted my eyelashes (and because I really had no f*cking idea you're not allowed to have tinted windows in NJ, and the car was bought out of state.)
Nice, I know the initial feeling all to well. Lol. That is funny.
 
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