Identifying Problem Behaviors During The First Interaction And Trusting Your Insticts To Leave

[Seasounds]

After trying a new friendship, and trying to 'side-line' my friend's stories of resenting and blaming her friend's (rather than accountably seeing her choices in the relationships), as you would suspect it boomeranged on me.

My friend soon played victim and resented and blamed me for what she disliked in her other friends.

Now, as I am less frozen, I notice unhealthy patterns sooner. And I can leave sooner, rather than side-lining it until I am neck-deep in trying to solve negative patterns.

Have you had this experience?

 

[Rani G2]

And I can leave sooner, rather than side-lining it until I am neck-deep in trying to solve negative patterns.

Just trying to understand: Are you in the middle of trying to figure out if its worth to stay in that friendship?

 

[Friday]

Now, as I am less frozen, I notice unhealthy patterns sooner. And I can leave sooner, rather than side-lining it until I am neck-deep in trying to solve negative patterns.

Absolutely.

<grin> That's one of the best parts of learning; what one likes & dislikes, what one wants in their life & does not, & the strength, certainty, & surety to action it.

 

[Seasounds]

@Shankara, I just ended a friendship, based on seeing the dysfunctional and destructive pattern of a friend. It is good to spot trouble sooner than later, and it is bittersweet; a loss of a friend and celebration of self-love.