amethist
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I would like to think that being honest with someone is better than skirting round and trying to be polite just to lesson the impact that really needs to be made.
I had a conversation the other day with a friend who asked my advise about something, indirectly connected to ptsd but to someone suffering. Unfortunately I went full pelt with my answer no hold barred, I really thought I had gone too far. But they know me enough to expect total honesty, this is what they got.
The after effect was amazing they thanked me no end because I was the only one who had done that. No fluffy answers, just telling them what a total and complete idiot they where for risking everything and why they should go away and think about what I had said.
That friend now thinks I am wonderful (take me down off the pedestal please) I'm only human with common sense answers.
They were actually in a bit of a bad space before I started, but ended up thinking in better frame of mind.
So in a way I am a bit like you Nicolette, as sometimes the only way to go is the honest straight to it way.
Walking on eggshells is OK, but it does depend on the person and the situation, as sometimes straight talking is better.
I hope this does not sound like I do this all the time, just when it is necessary.
Amethist
I had a conversation the other day with a friend who asked my advise about something, indirectly connected to ptsd but to someone suffering. Unfortunately I went full pelt with my answer no hold barred, I really thought I had gone too far. But they know me enough to expect total honesty, this is what they got.
The after effect was amazing they thanked me no end because I was the only one who had done that. No fluffy answers, just telling them what a total and complete idiot they where for risking everything and why they should go away and think about what I had said.
That friend now thinks I am wonderful (take me down off the pedestal please) I'm only human with common sense answers.
They were actually in a bit of a bad space before I started, but ended up thinking in better frame of mind.
So in a way I am a bit like you Nicolette, as sometimes the only way to go is the honest straight to it way.
Walking on eggshells is OK, but it does depend on the person and the situation, as sometimes straight talking is better.
I hope this does not sound like I do this all the time, just when it is necessary.
Amethist