Relationship I'm New Here And In A New Relationship With Ptsd Man

[Milo's papa]

@Catching_him , is he in therapy? if not is there someone who can help convince him he needs to be. You can't do that for him. he needs someone that has the training and experience working with PTSD to help him get through all of this.

 

[Catching_him]

Honestly, I have no idea if anyone can convince him.
It's not my job. I love him dearly, but I have had A LOT of experience with "damaged" people in the past and the only time they get help is when they want it..."hit bottom" so to speak. I will guide, but never nag. I had to decide on my own when I needed help. He has admitted it before...just hasn't followed through. His ex wouldn't let him...embarrassing to her! Wtf type of person would do that!?

 

[glass half full]

Cat

Honestly, I have no idea if anyone can convince him.
It's not my job. I love him dearly, but I hav...

Catching Him,

Please reach out for detailed information about combat PTSD. You need to know how your man has been trained and what he has been trained to do. You mention that he may delay retirement since he enjoys the privileges of rank. There are also responsibilities that go along with that rank. He has been and continues to be responsible for the safety of the soldiers under his command and.leadership. That is a huge responsibility and the losses that will have gone along with will weigh heavily on him the rest of his life. I would suggest you do some studying on combat training and the realities of life in a combat zone. It will give some insight into what he has dealt with and will continue to work through.

I note that you are speaking to him daily- wow- I would give a great deal to talk with my now retired soldier on a daily basis, but he's not able to give that right now. Relationships are five and take. PTSD relationships tend to require a bit more give from the supporter. Learn about where he's been. This will be a lifetime road for him, although not daily. Its best to learn that now.

 

[Milo's papa]

@Catching_him, hey there, how's it going? Haven't heard from you in a while. Are things OK?