Relationship I'm Wounded

[Febbsmum]

Im wounded by his harsh words by his isolation by his lack of interest in our life. I told him I need him and he told me I make his already shitty life unbearable. I have just recently come to grips with the fact that he even has PTSD and I've decided I need help to learn how to not need him so much but I'm so afraid that if I back off and give him the space he is asking for that he won't want me anymore. As upset as I am and Angry at his meanness I just want our love back Im still so in love with him.

 

[BigBear]

Is he getting therapy (ie trying to heal)? If not, this is pretty bad... His words are not typical of a real PTSD relationship. They tend to say similar things but in a much different way. I guess I'm afraid that he is becoming an abuser...

Bear

 

[BigBear]

Not that I'd necessarily know what that looked like, so it may be better to ignore me.

 

[lovehopepeace]

I am exactly where you are right now.

 

[Noa]

Are you in love with him or the memory of who he was?