Hi, I'm new here. Surprised there is a site like this. With the way I have been opening up to people and the response I've been getting I'd would assume there's nothing out there.
My abuse happened almost 15 year ago and finally I found the strength to tell someone... Only to find that it's too late.
My brother is the abuser and I told my family. The response was not well taken, by that I mean they don't really give a rat's ass. My dad cried when I told him but after that, not much has come of it at least not that I could tell. My grandmother, who looked after all the grandkids (3) for a lot of our childhood, she still lives with my family, when I told her she said I had nothing to be upset about. He didn't penetrate me, (her exact words) so I didn't have to be upset. Also, because it happened so long ago I shouldn't be angry anymore. No, I'm not angry anymore, I AM FURIOUS.
I was talking to someone else (not family) she told me I had up to 30 years to go to the police and I could report him. I was having a screaming match with my dad over his son and I blurted out that I could call the police at anytime.. He said I couldn't because we were both under 16 when it happened. That took all my hope away. Is that really true? After 15 years can I really not say anything because we were both minors?
The worst bit is, my mother knew. She caught him, had conversations with him about it, but never talked to me to see if I was ok. I was reading laws about child sexual abuse and if an adult knew about it and didn't do anything they could also get charged.
I'm really not sure if informing the authorities would be beneficial in any way. My family already hates me enough this would really be the icing on the cake. I need a way to resolve this for myself, to find justice in my justice-less world.
My abuse happened almost 15 year ago and finally I found the strength to tell someone... Only to find that it's too late.
My brother is the abuser and I told my family. The response was not well taken, by that I mean they don't really give a rat's ass. My dad cried when I told him but after that, not much has come of it at least not that I could tell. My grandmother, who looked after all the grandkids (3) for a lot of our childhood, she still lives with my family, when I told her she said I had nothing to be upset about. He didn't penetrate me, (her exact words) so I didn't have to be upset. Also, because it happened so long ago I shouldn't be angry anymore. No, I'm not angry anymore, I AM FURIOUS.
I was talking to someone else (not family) she told me I had up to 30 years to go to the police and I could report him. I was having a screaming match with my dad over his son and I blurted out that I could call the police at anytime.. He said I couldn't because we were both under 16 when it happened. That took all my hope away. Is that really true? After 15 years can I really not say anything because we were both minors?
The worst bit is, my mother knew. She caught him, had conversations with him about it, but never talked to me to see if I was ok. I was reading laws about child sexual abuse and if an adult knew about it and didn't do anything they could also get charged.
I'm really not sure if informing the authorities would be beneficial in any way. My family already hates me enough this would really be the icing on the cake. I need a way to resolve this for myself, to find justice in my justice-less world.
