In-laws On Their Way Up For A Week Long Vaction

[Bookoffee]

It continues to get worse. My wife dropped me off at work and decided to go to the family rental place. They had an argument and her brother got in her face and threatened to take her down. He has more than 100lbs on him than my wife. She left and called me crying about what happened. I told her to stay away from them for the rest of the week. I am fuming! I want to call her mother and tell her how much of a bitch she is being and we will not being taking anymore trips to their house for the holidays, I will make damn sure it wont happen.

My wife is trying to get in and see her therapist today. My boss approved for me to take the extra time off if my wife needs me home with her.

I am feeling homicidal right now.

 

[seedling]

Sorry there are so many issues coming up with this visit!

 

[Bookoffee]

We had a family meeting this morning. I found my voice and told her brother that he has no right to threaten my wife. I didn't care if he was certified in his state to physically restrain people that are a danger but it stops at our state and if it is to happen again, he will be arrested.

His mother jumped in and was angry with me, she pointed her finger at me and started to yell me.

I looked at her and gave her a look/smile that I will win. She saw it and said that she will never come to my state again.

My wife is going through a rough time but we are now sitting in our small apartment watching Dexter with our animals.

We are not sure if we will see them again while they are here but it has opened our eyes to the truth.

Neither one of us have a family except for each other.

Our new journey will have to start now.

 

[Bookoffee]

I went on Facebook and the news feed was full of sharing of the pictures with quotes about how they are right, they will go to prison to someone that burns the flag, the true meaning of being a family, etc..

I cannot believe how ignorant this family is being. I changed my settings so I can no long follow them.

I can't believe they would post such none sense, hurtful and righteous quotes.

Say it to our face and not be passive aggressive about the situation.

I want this week to end. I do not want to be in the same place of these people.

I lost my place as the nice daughter in law that is amazing to the evil bitch that controls her daughters emotions and behaviors.

Time to stock up on the pepper spray.

 

[seedling]

I looked at her and gave her a look/smile that I will win

Yah, good for you. Let them rant and rave on Facebook. Lot of good it will do them when you've got the look.

All the best for the two of you.

 

[Bookoffee]

Thank you @seedling My wife and I will go on with our lives as if they are not here. Her mother made it completely clear that she will defend her son more then her daughter. It is a sad situation.

We will move on from here

 

[Bookoffee]

They texted my wife yesterday afternoon for the address of our apartment so they could drop off the let over food. While her parents brought the food in my wife begged them to have dinner with us last night. Her mother told her that we are welcomed to go to their rental and have dinner with everyone. My wife cried to her mother for the four of us to have a small dinner that we would pay for. Her mother refused again and told her she had nothing to be crying about.

They finally left earlier this morning.

It broke my heart watching her jump with the look of hope at each text she received last night. I lived through it too many times with my own family.

 

[garden]

Her family is toxic and they contribute to her mental health issues. Good for you on realizing that you both have each other and your own journeys. It was a stressful ordeal, not a family visit.

I hope that your wife finds a way to let go of the need to have her mothers unconditional love, because her mother will NEVER have that for her, at least not in the way she needs, and as long as she hopes for things to be different, she will continue to suffer. My heart goes out to both of you.