Integration

[KwanYingirl]

how do I start a question to my therapist that I want help integrating dissociated parts. I speak of them as "not me" which is obviously denial. Just don't know what words to use to bring the subject up. Also, will a conversation about integration cause flooding of memories? Any advice would be helpful. Thank you.

 

[void]

@KwanYingirl

Have you and your T. mapped out your alters already?.....and you just want guidance in how to integrate them?
Does your T. interact with your alters?
Is your T. experienced in DID and integration therapy? (most T.'s are not)

I would just say "I want to work on integrating my alters, but I don't know how. Can we work on this issue together?"

 

[KwanYingirl]

Thanks @void my therapist takes my lead in session. Once in awhile I'll ask him to just ask me questions.since I ignore my internal state, he doesn't bring it up. My therapist specializes in trauma and has a lot of tools he uses.

 

[Friday]

When I don't know how to ask someone a question, but want to? I usually say just that. "How do I talk to you about XYZ?" Or "I don't know how to ask you about ABC."

:D

It's an end run around myself, but it works as a good starting point 99:100.

 

[Dissociated1]

Please do not be worried about a flood of memories. Your mind will not let you know until you are ready. It is more the case that once you recover the feelings and memories your alters have protected you from, you will begin to integrate as you heal.

 

[theshadowoftheliving]

I've found that my process is more of a frustration with how I CAN'T remember what I want to faster, rather than the other way around.